Thread: Am I a prude?

Okay, so I would admit to being a little old fashion, no doubt. But, lately I have been hearing friends talk about 3somes with their husbands and other women. I just don't understand how one could be ok with it. I am not judging. Just wondering. How do you get past the whole your husband with another woman part.

I am not going to say I haven't dabbled in the girl department. But, that was years ago. And I get sick to my stomach just thinking about my hubby putting his hands anywhere near another woman. My friend said it brought her and her husband so much closer. Is that true? Or do you think she is just saying that?

So, If any of you do this...how??? Again, no judgement at all. Just curious.

I have never engaged any any sort of multi-some, my wife would absolutely not be interested (she is barely even interested in sex with me).

But - if she was interested, under the right conditions I might be willing to give it a try. I think that 3somes are very risky emotionally, but I think it is a fairly common fantasy for both men and women.

So, I don't have any moral issues with 3-somes, but I think there are significant practical issues that make them a bad idea for most people.

If you are not completely comfortable with the idea (and you obviously are not), then you should absolutely not do it.

It may bring some relationships closer and it may rip some of them apart by the seams. It depends on both peoples level of comfort with doing the act in the first place. I personally think many women are agreeing to , even innicatiating it when they don't really want it because they feel like they "have to" in order to hold on to their spouse or boyfriend. And the more women that do it when they don't want to, the more women that don't feel pressured to do so as the men hear stories from their friends about what their signficant other did and wonder why they too can't have it all.

More and more the threesome is starting to seem like mid-relationship bachelor party scenerio "its just something men get to have that women have to deal with". I say it like that because for some reason most men find the idea of having another man in their bed sharing their wife to be UNTHINKABLE, disgusting and make women feel like a for even having such a fantasy. While having another woman in their bed sharing them is not too much to ask, its a beautiful team-building experience!

Unless a woman is bisexual and full interested in herself being with another female, a threesome IS a pretty selfish think of a man to ask of his wife. "Honey let me see you juggle this other strange guys balls while I lay here in masturbate, surely you can do that for me!" Yeah, the reverse doesn't go over so well does it?

I'm just tired of the double standard most men have with threesomes. I'm tired of hearing so many women struggling with the outcome and insecurities they have to deal with bothe before and after having one just to make their man happy. And I'm really tired of the women that secretly want nothing of the sort but pretend to and make all the rest of the women feel like prudes for simply loving a man so much they want to keep them to themselves sexually.

But guess what, if my man was interested in one, I'd probably say yes, because I'd want to make him happy even at my own happiness' expense. Im a total hypocrite and I know it. But in my heart I hope he'd never ask, even though I am someone that actually would physically enjoy such an act as I find women sexually attractive, my heart doesn't like the thought, not a bit.

Are MMF threesomes supposed to be taboo? Nobody gave me the memo.

Nope but women are way more likely to sit and play with a girl they have no sexual interest in to please their significant other, men much less likely to do that.

You're not a prude. It's just a preference thing. I wouldn't like my boyfriend touching another woman, let alone having sex with another one in front of me! Even though he says it's a common male fantasy and it is selfish in nature, he said it is because it's about power, control and feeling like you are "the man" for being able to get two women to please you. That said, he told me he'd never want a threesome for various reasons: 1) It'd probably be worse in reality than it is in fantasy 2) It would make me feel like 3) I'd probably ask for a MMF (not really, that would freak me out, it'd be a bit gross) and 4) because one woman is enough to deal with, imagine two... lol.

I think this is something that if you really want, you should do when you're young and single. I think bringing a third person into a marriage can only do more harm than good. Unless you have a fetish with seeing your partner with other people (this is more common than you may think... AND... it is actually more common I think that MEN want to see their wives have sex with another guy than WOMEN wanting to see their husband with another girl). If my boyfriend asked me to ever have a MMF to see me have sex with another guy, I'd dump him, because I'd doubt if he really loves me or not, because if he did then why share me? Luckily enough, I know that will practically NEVER happen.

I don't want to have sex with any other man because I love my boyfriend, so then I wouldn't want him to have sex with another one.

This doesn't makes us prudes. I think some women are insecure and think they should be ok with it, and pretend it's cool, just beacuse porn and the media have made a trend out of this. "I Kissed a Girl", anyone?

You're not a prude. People make it seem like society is sex-crazed, but there are a lot of people out there who aren't having 3-somes or who won't fathom it. I found out that one of my friends lied about having a 3-some.

My wife approached me about having a 3 some w/ another woman as she is bi curious and thought by including me it would be more acceptable to my liking. I'm ok with the idea, but I'm not sure what I would do w/ another woman in my bed as my wife takes up 100% of my attention during sex.

Anyway, our 3 yr search for the 3rd has been fruitless. We are at a loss as how to find such a woman. I can tell you that these opened minded ladies do not wear signs on their backs stating: Need a third?

I've told her to go ahead w/ her fantasy alone and I'm ok with that as long as she tells me all the naughty things they do together!

Swinging or wife swapping seems to be quite prevalent if you look and we know a couple that 'swings' frequently. I'm ok with my wife having casual sex with a woman but I'm not too keen with the idea of her w/ another man.

As the old saying goes: Different strokes for different folks.

^As hard as this is to believe, there are people who have 3-somes and say it's not all that...It's nice to think about and get aroused to, but when it happens...it's a different story.

Well, sorry to burst your bubble hopeless dork, but there are a lot of guys whose fantasy is to see their woman with another guy. My bf included - who happens to be pretty serious about making it happen. It might not make much 'sense' to you, but fantasies definitely don't always make sense! Just look up some of the more common fetishes!