Problem Coming..

powergurl17 · 02-11-2009, 05:56 PM

Hi everyone, i'm new to this website because I am faced with something that is bothering me considerable. I just started dating my new boyfriend and he had told me that it would be impossible to make him come and that he has never had a true sex orgasm from having sex with a girl. He is only able to finish himself off or I help him finish. I even have a hard time getting him to come when I give him head.

I have gotten close many different times but its never close enough. One thing to mention is that, he isn't circumcised. I'm just wondering if there is any tricks or anything I can get that might help him experience coming while having sex. Its exhausting trying to get him to come, especially riding him for 30-40 mins. Help, I need some advice.

**Hopeless Dork** · 02-11-2009, 06:01 PM

Sounds like he is desensitized to vaginal and oral sex stimulation probably from frequent masturbation. Ask him to stop for a while, have him go about a week (or more) with no masturbation then when you guys are intimate spend along time turning him on before going into the big finish, make him anticipate and need it and by the time you are there he should be good and ready to explode, hopefully.

powergurl17 · 02-11-2009, 06:07 PM

I might have to ask him to do that, or ask how often he does do that. He does spend a lot of time over at my house tho. Hopefully its something along those lines. He is 25 and has never had an orgasm from having sex.

**skipper** · 02-12-2009, 10:23 AM

I agree w/ HD. If he masterbates a lot, especially roughly, it can make it hard to come in a woman b/c he is used to much more friction. If he lays off for a few days or otherwise doesn't have sex at all, he should become so horny that just seeing you naked will make him come.

A sure trick to make him come quickly is sliding your finger up his and "pull the trigger". However, I'm not sure how you would accompish that during sex and both parties have to be ok with it. This works great for oral sex if you get tired.

I have a very difficult time coming during oral and it is extemely frustrating for my wife. You sound really frustrated too. It feels wonderful but she must get really aggressive with her hands for me to orgasm that way.

There are some other things you can try to stimulate and arouse him more such as a vibrator up his butt, dirty talk, role play, watching porn together, and being really naughty in bed. Most if not all guys love these things. We get extremely aroused with our eyes and ears.

I doubt being uncircumcised has any bearing on the issue.

02-11-2009, 05:56 PM	#1
powergurl17 Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Red Deer, Alberta Posts: 2	Problem Coming.. Hi everyone, i'm new to this website because I am faced with something that is bothering me considerable. I just started dating my new boyfriend and he had told me that it would be impossible to make him come and that he has never had a true sex orgasm from having sex with a girl. He is only able to finish himself off or I help him finish. I even have a hard time getting him to come when I give him head. I have gotten close many different times but its never close enough. One thing to mention is that, he isn't circumcised. I'm just wondering if there is any tricks or anything I can get that might help him experience coming while having sex. Its exhausting trying to get him to come, especially riding him for 30-40 mins. Help, I need some advice.

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02-11-2009, 06:01 PM	#2
Hopeless Dork Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: United States Posts: 2,192	Sounds like he is desensitized to vaginal and oral sex stimulation probably from frequent masturbation. Ask him to stop for a while, have him go about a week (or more) with no masturbation then when you guys are intimate spend along time turning him on before going into the big finish, make him anticipate and need it and by the time you are there he should be good and ready to explode, hopefully.

02-11-2009, 06:07 PM	#3
powergurl17 Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Red Deer, Alberta Posts: 2	I might have to ask him to do that, or ask how often he does do that. He does spend a lot of time over at my house tho. Hopefully its something along those lines. He is 25 and has never had an orgasm from having sex.

02-12-2009, 10:23 AM	#4
skipper Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Pensacola Posts: 139	I agree w/ HD. If he masterbates a lot, especially roughly, it can make it hard to come in a woman b/c he is used to much more friction. If he lays off for a few days or otherwise doesn't have sex at all, he should become so horny that just seeing you naked will make him come. A sure trick to make him come quickly is sliding your finger up his and "pull the trigger". However, I'm not sure how you would accompish that during sex and both parties have to be ok with it. This works great for oral sex if you get tired. I have a very difficult time coming during oral and it is extemely frustrating for my wife. You sound really frustrated too. It feels wonderful but she must get really aggressive with her hands for me to orgasm that way. There are some other things you can try to stimulate and arouse him more such as a vibrator up his butt, dirty talk, role play, watching porn together, and being really naughty in bed. Most if not all guys love these things. We get extremely aroused with our eyes and ears. I doubt being uncircumcised has any bearing on the issue.