Is there something wrong with me?

aminormal · 02-18-2009, 11:39 AM

OK, so my husband and I are coming up on our 1st anniversary in March. When we first met, I swear you couldn't get us out of the bedroom but now we can't seem to find ourselves in it unless we're sleeping! We are closer than close in every other way possible except in this area so I really want to get this figured out!!!

I am on birth control so I am wondering if that is part of my lack of sex drive. He definitely wants it but he's also really understanding. I just don't want to be one of those couples that doesn't have a sexual relationship. Last night (like many other nights lately) we started kissing and getting intimate and first off... it hurts so bad when he firsts inserts his penis... is this normal? Once he pulls in and out a few times then that part is fine but then I feel like I am constantly pulling him closer to me so he's not pulling out so far every time he goes in and out of me. I almost feel like I'm not wet enough and so I am worried that the further he pulls out the more friction (in a not so pleasant way) its going to create. Anybody, anybody?

And last but not least, one of our favorite positions, doggy style, is now so uncomfortable I can hardly stand it. It almost feels like he's penis is rubbing or running into one of my organs down there

.. its such a gross and unpleasant feeling... almost nauseating. Is this sounding familiar to anyone or is it just me?!

So help me out ladies... does this sound like something I need to get checked out? It just saddens me that we haven't even been married a year and this is already happening and I definitely feel like it's all on my end.

I would love to alleviate this situation so any of your advice would be much appreciated!

Pavement · 02-18-2009, 12:00 PM

Vaginal dryness can be a symptom of our birth control for sure--it's definitely not pleasurable if there is friction happening (if you know what I mean!)
Have you tried using lubricants to help that problem?

As for the low libido, I thought my birth control was causing that too at one point. There are so many mental factors involved in sexuality that it may be a number of things. Have you tried exercising? It releases endorphins and it boosts your sex drive like there's no tomorrow!
I also found that I was a lot less aroused when I anticipated the sex--it almost felt like a chore (even though it's definitely not). Try waking up each morning with some sort of sexy thought, and let that thought blossom throughout the day, and at the end of the night you'll hardly be able to keep your hands off of him!

If you're really worried that it's your birth control, you can go to the doctor and switch brands, or you can ask him to check your hormone balance.

Sex shouldn't hurt, so it might be a good thing to get a pap test too, just too make sure everything is good and healthy!

**WildChild** · 02-18-2009, 02:38 PM

You may need more foreplay. some of us can just jump right into it and some need a lot of prep.

Dreffensfia · 02-19-2009, 09:53 PM

I notice sometimes if I don't play with myself for a long time, or haven't had intercourse for a week or more it gets really tender if I start to get wet, or play with myself, or my boyfriend and I get busy.

Might just be that because you haven't done anything in so long, that your body is readjusting itself. You could just be tighter than you used to.

And yes, as Pave said, if you're not getting as wet as you should be, lubricant could be a viable answer.

02-18-2009, 11:39 AM	#1
aminormal Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 1	Is there something wrong with me? OK, so my husband and I are coming up on our 1st anniversary in March. When we first met, I swear you couldn't get us out of the bedroom but now we can't seem to find ourselves in it unless we're sleeping! We are closer than close in every other way possible except in this area so I really want to get this figured out!!! I am on birth control so I am wondering if that is part of my lack of sex drive. He definitely wants it but he's also really understanding. I just don't want to be one of those couples that doesn't have a sexual relationship. Last night (like many other nights lately) we started kissing and getting intimate and first off... it hurts so bad when he firsts inserts his penis... is this normal? Once he pulls in and out a few times then that part is fine but then I feel like I am constantly pulling him closer to me so he's not pulling out so far every time he goes in and out of me. I almost feel like I'm not wet enough and so I am worried that the further he pulls out the more friction (in a not so pleasant way) its going to create. Anybody, anybody? And last but not least, one of our favorite positions, doggy style, is now so uncomfortable I can hardly stand it. It almost feels like he's penis is rubbing or running into one of my organs down there .. its such a gross and unpleasant feeling... almost nauseating. Is this sounding familiar to anyone or is it just me?! So help me out ladies... does this sound like something I need to get checked out? It just saddens me that we haven't even been married a year and this is already happening and I definitely feel like it's all on my end. I would love to alleviate this situation so any of your advice would be much appreciated!

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02-18-2009, 12:00 PM	#2
Pavement Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: In my dreams of course! Posts: 8	Vaginal dryness can be a symptom of our birth control for sure--it's definitely not pleasurable if there is friction happening (if you know what I mean!) Have you tried using lubricants to help that problem? As for the low libido, I thought my birth control was causing that too at one point. There are so many mental factors involved in sexuality that it may be a number of things. Have you tried exercising? It releases endorphins and it boosts your sex drive like there's no tomorrow! I also found that I was a lot less aroused when I anticipated the sex--it almost felt like a chore (even though it's definitely not). Try waking up each morning with some sort of sexy thought, and let that thought blossom throughout the day, and at the end of the night you'll hardly be able to keep your hands off of him! If you're really worried that it's your birth control, you can go to the doctor and switch brands, or you can ask him to check your hormone balance. Sex shouldn't hurt, so it might be a good thing to get a pap test too, just too make sure everything is good and healthy!

02-18-2009, 02:38 PM	#3
WildChild WH Moderator Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 8,699 Blog Entries: 6	You may need more foreplay. some of us can just jump right into it and some need a lot of prep.

02-19-2009, 09:53 PM	#4
Dreffensfia Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 5	I notice sometimes if I don't play with myself for a long time, or haven't had intercourse for a week or more it gets really tender if I start to get wet, or play with myself, or my boyfriend and I get busy. Might just be that because you haven't done anything in so long, that your body is readjusting itself. You could just be tighter than you used to. And yes, as Pave said, if you're not getting as wet as you should be, lubricant could be a viable answer.