New Partner = Stage Fright

**SinisterUrge** · 02-19-2009 07:16 PM

Originally Posted by Beautiful Disaster

Yikes, I'm nervous. Wine perhaps? haha.

Wine, and pot if thats your thing, should lead upto #1 ("here, try this Nappa Valley red...oops! I spilled some on your chin, let me get it....")

Originally Posted by skipper

Seduce and dominate him. He'll love it. I would go into detail, but what I'd say would sound lame after SU's post!!!

Well if he's a total freak.....

2b. Wear your gym shoes sockless all day beforehand.

4.5: Spanking! (Riding crop optional)

5b. Transition from analingus to full manual penetration. Nothing upgrades a handjob like a prostate massage. (Need: Lube, latex gloves)

9b. Now that you're nice & warmed-up take a minute to empty your bladder on his face.

11b. After you've got your penetrative orgasm, go ahead have him pull-out and make him get himself off while you insult his pathetic skills and underwhelming manhood. Then make sure he "cleans up his mess."

**thack** · 02-19-2009 08:58 PM

i could only hope that there is a woman plotting my evening like this, lol.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 02-19-2009 09:08 PM

SU- OH MY!! LOL. I love it!! haha. But, with the way the night turned out, doesn't look like he'll be getting any of that. LOL!

CW - yes my lady...me worries too. ha. First of all the whole "text only" thing was seriously aggravating. I mean, dude, pick up the phone if you feel like whining...then at least I can get the full story and be somewhat compassionate. Then, for him to tell me he was afraid to invite me over thinking I wouldn't want to. Barf. Seriously...I thought I was the woman in this relationship.

I basically told him texting was over, and that he'd either learn to communicate with me or he wouldn't. Ah...and to think I was actually going to victimize him tonight.

Hopless Dork - ahhh what a fool he was tonight, because oh...it would've been nice I tell ya.

Thack- you really want someone to pee on your face, useyou for an orgasm, and then make you pleasure yourself while telling you how pitifully small your penis is? LOL. Masochist eh? ha

**WildChild** · 02-19-2009 10:09 PM

He sounds a bit unsure about this. I mean sext is one thing, trying to convey a ton of emotion that way just doesn't work very well. Suppose he had an idea what you were thinking and got cold feet? Most men, no matter what they may say, seem to prefer being the initiator, at least at first. Two months seems like a slow starter. You sure you want this?

**Beautiful Disaster** · 02-19-2009 10:44 PM

WC - well the slow starter thing can be blamed on me.....he has sure tried. I have always jumped into things much too quickly, and I decided that this time I'd take things a bit slower....try to establish more of an emotional connection before sex. Though I know at times he hasn't wanted to respect that, he has respected my wishes.

If he had any clue whatsoever, then he's psychic because I certainly didn't mention anything to even insinuate it.

Yeah, I'm rarely ever sure that what I have (guy wise) is what I want. Guess that's why I've never married. Haven't met the one that leaves me without a doubt. Ahhh...Princess Charming will continue to wait I suppose. Ha!

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 02-19-2009 11:50 PM

Thack- you really want someone to pee on your face, useyou for an orgasm, and then make you pleasure yourself while telling you how pitifully small your penis is? LOL. Masochist eh? ha

OMG - Thack, she's joking, nooo, don't get scared of us women, honest.

WC - well the slow starter thing can be blamed on me.....he has sure tried.

Well, I think WC hit a point based on your reply if he said, " I was afraid to invite you over, didn't think you would want to"...

Do you think, you've set a few ground rules, that he's respected and so, doesn't know if he is Arthur or Matha? haha.

CW

**Steph33** · 02-20-2009 02:33 AM

When I first dated my BF he was unusually shy and I thought more than a bit odd in how slow he was physically with me. It wasn't until the 4th or 5th date he asked if he could kiss me. Repeat, asked. Even after that he asked if it was OK each time. We stayed at that stage a couple months, really unheard of for me. But over time I got inside his brain enough in general conversations or situations to understand it made him wretch when guys assumed that after 1-2 dates they were owed sex, seeing players full of BS in clubs hit on women really pissed him off, and he generally wasn't a fan of most men since they made him look bad just being a guy. And there is an assault victim in his family. The thought of making a move that might not be wanted or make a female afraid was a major block for him. But every kind of hint I could drop didn't work, even though it was obvious when we sometimes danced close or he wore certain clothes that all his equipment totally reacted to me. Looking back I think it mattered a lot to him that I didn't feel like a piece of meat or that they only reason he was with me was to get laid. But God, even with that, he still moved SO SLOW.

His music taste is Metal and we went to several concerts. My normal dress is casual business most of the time if I had to explain it and I have long styled hair. At the shows he would, politely, sometimes comment how great some of the hairstyles were that women wore for the show. Think "big" hair from the 80s.

After 3 months I decided it was best for me to "take over" as I was already in love with the guy for all the other reasons aside from sex. I had the girl who does my hair do a 1 time "big Metal 80s" style using enough hairspray to damage the ozone layer. Bought an over the elbow pair of black gloves. Wore them with black garter belts and fishnet stockings. End of outfit parts. When he came over for dinner and walked in I was sitting in a living room chair with each of my legs over the arms and told him what I wanted him to eat for dinner.

Everything went fine and it was the best first time sex I ever had with a partner. For whatever reason, the hair especially really did it for him and he was near Olympic in his performance. Once he totally knew he was wanted, allowed, and the only one I wanted, the shyness and fear of any unintended disrespect or harming me in any way was gone.

He's been great and is still mad for me daily after 3 years. I couldn't ever stand having all that hairspray and mousse in my hair daily. But I got a quality wig in that style at a costume shop. I wear it on days he's been a really good boy or special times like birthday, holidays, etc. It still makes him totally lose his mind along with any and all control. Those days I could probably get him to chew through the front door to get at me. I may not understand why, but if it doesn't harm you, do it and don't try to fix what isn't broken.

If you get a sense what he likes, not just doing but what gets him to the point of wanting to do (verbally, dress, etc), it will be great. Hope you don't walk away like you have before if it is good.

**SinisterUrge** · 02-20-2009 07:32 AM

Originally Posted by Beautiful Disaster

Thack- you really want someone to pee on your face, useyou for an orgasm, and then make you pleasure yourself while telling you how pitifully small your penis is? LOL. Masochist eh? ha

I wouldn't be surprised if he prints out my schedule and keeps a copy in his back pocket to give to women who chat him up in the bar. LOL