Thread: A true anxiety

I agree with you CW. Size doesn't matter.

I am not exactly well endowed and I am very vertically challanged. I have never had a lover complain about my size even though it still causes me considerable anxiety. Unfortunately, very few of us have perfect bodies. Luckily, love makes up for 99.9% of the imperfections. Generally, women go for what's between your ears and not b/w your legs (and thank goodness for that!).

Everyone is created differently. Some women are tight, and some women are loose. Some men are big, and some men are small. It's not about the size, it's what you do with it that matters. If you love her, and she loves you, then when you make love together, it will be wonderful no matter what.

you mentioned that you are above the size of micropenis? well i did a research paper on intersexuals and sex reassignment. i learned a ton! seriously. look it up. i know that men with micropenis can penetrate, but it might take different positions, if you get what im saying. men with micropenis have sex, but it might take a little extra effort, or some experimenting to see what works. again, look some stuff up. and like everyone has already said, if she loves you size wont matter. and if it does matter to her, well , then her loss!! good luck!

Women can be amazingly devoted creatures when someone has captured their heart. If she has fallen for you already not based on sex, sex won't change her feelings for you.

That being the case, the size of your penis will not make a difference, especially if you are giving her oral and manual satisfaction as an added feature to your love-making. I would prefer a man that loves me, is affectionate and cares about my pleasure over an insensitive guy, only out for his own orgasm, non cuddler with the biggest penis in town, any day. Hands down.

If it small enough that its going to suprise her, please do talk to her about it before hand and make her comfortable with how comfortable YOU are with it. The way a lot of us women are she will probably be more concerned that she will be able to please you in her vagina than her being pleased with your penis.

I know if my guy was smaller I would be worried if he was feeling pleasure inside of me, etc.. more than I was worried about him being able to please me since I am able to get just as much pleasure from a finger as a penis. The gpot on women is only a couple inches in, sounds like with some good positioning you can reach that just fine, also as long as she is having her clit stimulated during any intercourse , shes going to reach her peak.

I know you are feeling insecure about it, and she may feel insecure about what I mentioned so communication is going to be key. Letting her know how good it feels when you finally do it etc.

Just like some men that have an incident where they can't become erect, feel insecure and ashamed and less of a man as they feel they failed the woman. And the woman feels insecure and ashamed and less sexy or appealing to you because they feel they didn't have what it takes to turn the man on. Both parties sad and it could be all fixed with just a little dialogue.

"It's not the size that matters; it's the motion of the ocean" - a quote from my brother weirdly enough.... still not sure why he proudly proclaimed that when I was present (perhaps alcohol is to be blamed, lol)! Anyway, point being, a guy could be huge but not have a clue as to how to please a woman - yet a guy could be smaller but pays careful attention to her and knows exactly how to get her off. Yes, I would take that any day. If you're good at foreplay and pay attention to clitoral stimulation, you should be just fine. Plus if she truly loves you, it won't matter.

I think it's a double standard, and here is why. Everyone says "Size doesn't matter" (I don't think it does) but guys are still self-concious about it. On the flip-side, woman have their own anxieties too. I bet your girl does too. I bet she wishes she were skinnier, or prettier or her boobs were bigger. I don't know if ANYONE is pe, rfectly ok with themselves. You know you have a problem with yourself, ok, I get that, and you have gone to a doctor and you have taken action, there isn't much more you can do (although I got an interesting email the other day...ok, I think everyone got it!)

Point is, if you love her and she loves you, it's not going to matter. If it does matter to her, that shows she is a bit shallow, in my opinion.

Work on being happy with YOU, or else you will have a really hard time being happy with someone else.