When having sex for the first time how long should a girl go between sessions?

shortissexy411 · 03-01-2009, 12:59 PM

i just started sleping with my bf. its only been a few days but weve been trying it a few times a day and it still really really hurts. im just wondering if we should take a break? or how long should i keep trying till it stops hurting......

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-01-2009, 03:46 PM

I wouldn't be recommending that you do it a few times a day, assuming you were a Virgin at first, so that it can be more pleasurable... You'll end up with Thrush as your minds aren't concentrating on intimacy or enjoyment, rather getting rid of pain.

Just take it easy, make love because you both want to feel each other, "slowly", it's not about any of that, rather about doing it for love... (and lust) but not to stop it from hurting, when your body is ready it will relax and it will stop.

Whilst your trying to make it stop your not relaxing.

If that makes sense.

CW

**Steph33** · 03-01-2009, 04:27 PM

I agree, better to do it less and enjoy it each time. As your body adapts you can do it more often with pleasure. Pain (to me) is never pleasure.

My guy is Dr cleared to do whatever he wants sex wise after heart surgery a year and a half ago. But the couple times since then he wanted me a 4th time in one day, I was wondering if I'd have to give him CPR. I love him to death but don't want to kill him.

kenturah · 03-01-2009, 07:36 PM

girl be patient its gonns take a couple of try but not the same day nor next you just have to relax and take it slow and give your coochie a rest lmaooooooo

**golden_nemesis** · 03-02-2009, 12:15 PM

I feel your pain! And its not just when you first start having sex. The issue comes back if you don't have sex for a while.

Last month I was away from my partner for just over 3 weeks. When I got home, we were all over each other for several days. The first day was fine, then I was sore for the next couple, then the soreness subsided around day 4. Now I can have sex several times a day, but that first stage is hard. Honestly, I kept having sex even when I was sore, just because I am so crazy about my guy and I really wanted the feeling of closeness that comes with sex, but I would recommend waiting till you're not sore to have sex again. The intervals should get shorter and shorter till you won't notice any soreness at all!

Have fun! ;-)

03-01-2009, 12:59 PM	#1
shortissexy411 Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 1	When having sex for the first time how long should a girl go between sessions? i just started sleping with my bf. its only been a few days but weve been trying it a few times a day and it still really really hurts. im just wondering if we should take a break? or how long should i keep trying till it stops hurting......

03-01-2009, 03:46 PM	#2
CHANDLERS WISH WH Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 9,968 Blog Entries: 7	I wouldn't be recommending that you do it a few times a day, assuming you were a Virgin at first, so that it can be more pleasurable... You'll end up with Thrush as your minds aren't concentrating on intimacy or enjoyment, rather getting rid of pain. Just take it easy, make love because you both want to feel each other, "slowly", it's not about any of that, rather about doing it for love... (and lust) but not to stop it from hurting, when your body is ready it will relax and it will stop. Whilst your trying to make it stop your not relaxing. If that makes sense. CW __________________ Do we not realise that in order to find a soul It doesn't happen over night if truth were to be told Like everything in life that's hard to achieve you must believe! Register! \| Rules/FAQ \| Contact Mod

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03-01-2009, 04:27 PM	#3
Steph33 Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 283	I agree, better to do it less and enjoy it each time. As your body adapts you can do it more often with pleasure. Pain (to me) is never pleasure. My guy is Dr cleared to do whatever he wants sex wise after heart surgery a year and a half ago. But the couple times since then he wanted me a 4th time in one day, I was wondering if I'd have to give him CPR. I love him to death but don't want to kill him.

03-01-2009, 07:36 PM	#4
kenturah Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Delaware Posts: 17	girl be patient its gonns take a couple of try but not the same day nor next you just have to relax and take it slow and give your coochie a rest lmaooooooo

03-02-2009, 12:15 PM	#5
golden_nemesis Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 127	I feel your pain! And its not just when you first start having sex. The issue comes back if you don't have sex for a while. Last month I was away from my partner for just over 3 weeks. When I got home, we were all over each other for several days. The first day was fine, then I was sore for the next couple, then the soreness subsided around day 4. Now I can have sex several times a day, but that first stage is hard. Honestly, I kept having sex even when I was sore, just because I am so crazy about my guy and I really wanted the feeling of closeness that comes with sex, but I would recommend waiting till you're not sore to have sex again. The intervals should get shorter and shorter till you won't notice any soreness at all! Have fun! ;-)