imported_Blice

'Ello ladies.


I'm a man. Er... Or rather, a boy? Young adult. 16, anyways.


This post isn't about bragging. Please, don't take it that way. This is a serious problem that I'm not sure how to deal with.


So, I've had sex with three different girls. One was 17 (She was going to be 18 in a couple months), one was 22, and the other was 16, my age. The first person I had sex with, the one I lost my virginity to, was the 17 year old girl. We had sex three times, before she ended it. She ended it because she was "Sexually fustrated". The problem was, that even though she was getting orgasms, it hurt too much. She was no virgin, and I hurt her. Alot. She said I was pushing into her crevix too hard, etc., she even bled a bit the second time we had sex.

She did throw in some compliments though, I guess to make me feel better. Such as, "You really don't have sex like a virgin". The thing she pointed out most about this was that we went for two hours the first time we had sex, and as far as she knew (And I knew), virgins don't last very long. Even I was supprised.

So anyways, the second girl was officially a girlfriend. Yeah, the 17 year old wasn't my girlfriend. It was a... casual kinda thing. I guess. I don't know. But the 16 year old was a girlfriend girlfriend. She wasn't a virgin either. We had sex twice and then she broke up with me because "You're too big, it's uncomfortable".

The third girl, and most recent, was 22. I know some of you might be against that, a 16 year old with a 22 year old, but eh. She looks my age, acts my age, and is completely adorable. As far as I knew, I was in love. But guess what happend? The same thing that's happend twice before. I'm too big.



This is so disapointing. I thought being large was a GOOD thing. I thought girls WANTED that. And now it seems that what I've always been so proud of I'm now ashamed of. Used to be a blessing, and is now a curse.


I don't know what to do. I really don't. What if I find the girl I love and want to spend the rest of my life with, but I'm simply too big? :/


And just for the record here so you can get some sort of idea, I'm 10 1/2 inches long, and 3 inches width wise.


Help me, please?

imported_Mae1821

Well in my opinion, you cant really do anything about it. Its who you are, and how you were made, so you either take it gentle with the women, make it pleasing for them, or find someone who can handle it. I was with a rather large man once before, and it was nice.. but sometimes i would be focusing on the size and hoping that he wouldnt go too deep, rather then on sex itself. so maybe thats their problems.. make them feel relaxed.

AFemaleProdigy

I agree with the last person. It is who you are and you should not be ashamed of it. Be proud of what you've got. When you get older, people will envy you for that. Believe me... people are way too hyped up about size these days.

Anyway, keep in mind that all women are built differently. Their vaginas vary in length and width. So what hurts some girls, may be perfect for others. Some girls cannot enjoy sex if their man doesn't have a large penis. You are still young and have a long life ahead to find the right girl so don't get discouraged. Besides that, if a girl leaves you because it's too big, then they are not the one for you anyway. If a girl truly loves you, then she wouldn't be so quick to dismiss you.

When you are having sex with a girl, it's very important to communicate with each other. Ask her if it's ok or if it's too much. Take it slow and gentle until you are sure she is doing ok with it. It's a known fact that most people just do not communicate enough about what feels good to them. Be upfront with her before you have sex and tell her to let you know if you are being too rough or if it hurts.

It will also help you to know that it's important to start out with plenty of forplay. Make sure she is well warmed up before you start. As a woman gets excited, her cervix retracts slightly to make room for the penis. If she is not excited and worked up enough, it will not pull back and the penis is more likely to hit the cervix and cause discomfort. Now that may not eliminate your problem with all girls, but it will certainly help.

Keep in mind that despite what some people might say, most women do not like to have sex for hours and hours. They get tired and sore after too long. Most women are done after the first or second orgasm. So pay attention to how she is feeling and whether or not you should go for a long time.

I hope this helps!

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~Jessica

imported_Blice

Thanks alot, both of you.

A girl once told me that she loves feeling it push against her cervix, that she actually enjoys that sort of pain. Maybe there are more that're the same?

And as far as communication goes during sex, I just look at their reactions to things. When they whine and bite their lip, I assume there's maybe some pain. So I slow down a bit and try not to go as far into them.



I have another question though here, not related to this problem:

Why do girl's fake orgasms, really? I mean, I understand that'd it would make a guy feel bad about himself if he can't give his partner an orgasm, I can understand that completely. But why make the guy feel like he's good? He'll never improve, or want to improve that way. If anything, you girls should exagerate the fact that you arn't getting pleasure. Get him mad about it during sex, make him work harder. ****, yawn a little and pick up a book and start reading it during sex. I'm sure he'd get pretty pissed off and try to "Prove you wrong" in a sense, right?


Thanks ladies, I really appreciate the advice and help. <3

imported_kaylar

My ball & chain is about that size.
Take if very very very slow...spend
a lot...A LOT OF TIME in foreplay...
make sure she is very lubricated...
do not move up and down, move in a
circle..
do not push it all the way in...
move in a circle...like you're dancing...
nice and slow....

and you'll be alright...
won't hurt anyone...
and by taking time and making sure
the woman is there...virtually there
before you enter...
you might get the reputation of
a good lover.

imported_Mae1821

Your question about faking orgasms? I know its just the fact that we dont want to hurt your feelings, and make sex uncomfortable between the two of us.. I see where your getting at.. but some girls feel bad about themselves, in my situation, my man (or any man for that matter) cant give me an orgasm, i do it simply by myself, or my toys. He feels bad that he cant get me off. So think of it like that, maybe she cant get off and wants you to feel good about yourself.

imported_kaylar

I never faked it,cause I never saw
anyone else have sex so wouldn't know
my lines.