robynskrum

I have recently found a lover who is just as passionate as I am in bed and I almost find it... distracting. Every place he touches he makes it feel nice in a massage kind of way. I know it sounds strange and counterintuitive but the entire atmosphere is tingling with so much passion that sometimes I loose track of the goal. I want to feel the ecstasy everywhere in my body...down to my toes ya know? The problem is it takes a lot of concentration on my clitoris to get off during sex. I feel like this takes away from my enjoyment of the entire physical experience and can often feel satisfied without the climax. Sometimes I forget about "getting off" until I can feel him coming and then all of a sudden I feel like I was so entranced by our "dance", the tingling of skin, the eye connection, the breath...that I've lost my chance. The sex isn't short (usually 1/2 hour ) and sometimes I get more than one shot a night but does anyone have any advice on how to get my head out of the clouds long enough to get off? I feel like he puts me in a trance but he seems to be loosing confidence when I don't orgasm. Is it me or him?

mewhenim

talk about it before hand. Tell him in a nice way that everything he does feels so good that you forget about the best part, and don't realize that it's too late. Make sure you emphasize how good it is up untill that point. Or tell him you know he's worried and explain it from that angle. Along the lines of don't worry, it's just that everything you do feels so good that I forget that I need clitoral stimulation for that golden ending. You will always do better if you put more emphasis on the positive and it seems like you have plenty to work with!