Phone Sex / Dirty Talk : How to start?

**Agatsuma_Soubi_san** · 04-03-2009 07:12 PM

Alright. I'm 15, female, and currently in a relationship with another girl. (I'd like no comments to my sexuality please.) We've been dating for 2 years now, maybe a bit more but we'd been very good friends for about a year or 2 before hand. Anyways, we're pretty open on most topics that involve sexual activity and have agreed that neither of us are ready to take the big step into actually being active though we do have a bit of the foreplay without any fingering, but other things.

Recently she wanted to try phone sex, and was more over asking me on advice. My mother is very open when it comes to my body and everything else so I'm a bit more knowledgeable when it comes to these things. But she wanted to try it, having admitted after not seeing each other for about 2 months (I'm at a different school right now but I'm trying to switch back) having admitted she wanted to try and turn me on.

Of course, she doesn't have to do much but she wanted to try and I was open to trying as well, though we're still both trying to come out of the shyness of actually speaking it out loud. We had a bit of a failed attempt and planned to try again the next night, and just think during the day of things to say and what not.

Now, I'm open to do this, but I'm not sure what to do. I know what phone sex is and the just of it but I don't think we're ready to get into the big details just yet, having not had actual intercourse or whatever you'd like to call it between two females. So I was thinking more along the lines of either a) turning her on and b) a bit of dirty talk though not completely direct.

Also, just to add (since it'll probably help) I am the more dominant in the relationship and we do put it that way a little. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you.

**WildChild** · 04-03-2009 10:14 PM

Well I don't think anyone here will judge your sexuality. Don't worry about that. A lot of this depends on the two of you and what you are into. You could start telling her how much you miss her, what you are wearing, do you have candles lit? Just set the mood a bit. Tell her what you are doing how you are touching yourself the way you want to touch her. Describe what you feel, how wet you are getting. How do you want to touch, to kiss? How you will respond when you do.

I don't have experience doing this with another woman but I'm sure as the two of you talk you can pick up on eachothers turn ons. After all everyone is different and what realy gets one person going, just doesn't do it for another. It's also good to talk about what turns you on and what you would be willing to try. Good luck with this, most of all just have fun with it.

**Hopeless Dork** · 04-04-2009 01:05 AM

Phone sex, is really just any kind of talk on the phone that gets the other person aroused enough to masturbate to...

There are several ways you can do this, you can do it a different way each time or mix up any of these variations or add your own

1. Fantasies - Describe in great detail a sexual fantasy you have. It can involve a fantasy you have about the person you are talking to.. or just a fantasy in general of something you'd like to experience.

2.Masturbation- Start slow and do it as you normally would but describe everything you are doing the moment you are doing it be sure to describe the body parts you are touching - what they look and feel like what it feels like to be touched there, the different motions your making.

2.a You can spice this one up with role play- tell them how you want to touch themselves or if your more submissive you can have them direct you on what to do and respond with genuine pleasure expressions as well as describing how it feels to do what they are telling you to do etc.

2.b You can tell them what it would feel like to have them do to you what you are doing.. or describe how you would do the things you are doing to them etc.

3. Discuss a future sexual encounter, this one is great to combine with fantasy. Explain what you want to wear, where you want to go , how you want to sit, all the ways you will touch them.. etc

3a. You can add longing for this encounter - how much you can't wait to taste their lips etc.. the sense of urgency is what makes this a tad different

4. If you guys aren't jealous - you can discuss in detail a past sexual encounter in as sexy, dirty and descriptive way as possible - this will depend greatly on how the other person feels about your past, if they are insecure etc.. its not for everyone.

5. Probe them, ask them questions about what they are doing what certain things on their body feels like, as you become turned on you need to be as descriptive as possible about what hearing about those things do to you.

The most important thing is to just go with the flow, be natural and remember that sex especially for women takes place much more in the mind than anywhere else so painting a picture is very important, you want them to be able to see what you are saying, to feel it.

**Mme.Marie** · 04-04-2009 10:39 PM

Ok , I know I am about to sound like a complete dork here.

Do either of you play RPGs , I mean like videogame , computer or manual. I am talking world of warcraft , D&D , Diablo ...etc. Its a really good way to get used to living a fantasy outloud. Essentially phone sex is making your imagination a factor in reality.

You could try typing it first if you wanted. Or read some erotic and sort of play act it out.

**blb80** · 04-05-2009 12:43 AM

So............is World of Warcraft used in a sexual manner too? Because my husband has an addiction to this game. Hmmmm...............interesting!

**Agatsuma_Soubi_san** · 04-05-2009 12:55 AM

Well, yes I'm rather addicted to roleplaying >.<
And I'm comfortable with adult content
But it's a bit different when it's real life =/

**SinisterUrge** · 04-05-2009 06:01 PM

Originally Posted by blb80

So............is World of Warcraft used in a sexual manner too? Because my husband has an addiction to this game. Hmmmm...............interesting!

Does your hubby have a WoW fetish? Take the test!

1. Does he have 'PWN- N00B' tattooed on his knuckles?
2. Does he have a brand of the HORDE logo on his ?
3. Is his pet name for his genitalia something like "Aegis Gash Mallet +5"
4. Does his dirty talk sound like "You like that? You like that you f*cking camper? Are you my nasty gold farmer?"
5. Is his vanity plate 'L60 PIMP'
6. Does he dirty text you, while having sex instead of talking?

**SinisterUrge** · 04-05-2009 06:03 PM

7. Does he say "AFK" when he has to pee?

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