Thread: General Sex Questions

Originally Posted by ItsASecret

Okay so I have a couple questions, any input would be appreciated

1. My bf wants me to try new positions. I am anything but flexible so many positions are already out, but we do the "basics" like from behind, missionary, spooning, me on my back and him perpendicular to me, on the side of the bed, me on my stomach, and me on top. So my question is what other positions could we try and wouldn't involve a lot of flexibility? (I can't lift my legs legs over the shoulders, or bend to my toes ect.)

One of our favorites is me on my bank with him kneeling between my legs. My legs can be spread and tucked over his, or one or both of them can be held against his chest, and over his shoulders if he feels like holding you up a bit. With legs spread or one leg up, he has excellent access to your clit from this position. You can play with the angle of your hips to maximize your stimulation.

For other ideas, just type sex positions into google, and you will get many, many more options. You may not be able to do all of them, but its so much fun to experiment and try them out.

Originally Posted by ItsASecret

2. With regards to me being on top, most of the time I will sit on him and move my hips forward and lift my hips up a tiny bit when I'm going back but I don't feel anything so I end up lifting my hips up and he ends up doing all the work with thrusting in. Its a dumb question but is there a movement that works best with woman on top? Do I need to sit flat on him and just push my hips forward then swoop back? Or do I need to use my legs to get myself up a bit above his penis and then do the same motion? I just cannot seem to get it right. He says it feels great but I get nothing so I stop. Another thing, he is quite large so it often hurts when I sit flat on him if he is totally erect.

When I am on top, I don't raise myself up much, I usually just rock my hips. My torso stays pretty much in position. Think about belly dancers, whose torso doesn't move but their hips move all over the place. This idea works GREAT for woman on top. It may take some practice, but I get awesome G-spot stimulation from the back and forth motion of my hips. This would probably work for you and your man's size, you'd just scoot forward a bit so he wasn't penetrating you fully, then rock forward from there, and it should be comfy. You'll need to hold yourself up just a little with your legs, but I have found it not to be very tiring because you are staying one height over him, just moving back and forth.

Good luck, and have fun!

I suggest that you try getting a "sex deck" from Books A Million . It is full of positions and while you wont be able to do some , you can get some good ideas from others. I am not overly flexable myself , and my boyfriend has back issues that affect our range of motion as well ... but I have found that having him sit in a stationary chair allows for some intresting positions that are easy on both of us. Just make sure it has a stong back , because you may need it to help balance.

As to the girl on top bit. Thinking belly dancing is about right. Or you can try things like reverse cowgirl , which is still girl on top that you might find easier to work with if he is a bit larger.

You might also consider buying some of the liberator shapes.They are not cheap,but they are very helpfull for those with physical issue's.