Thread: 2 Minute Sex... Help?

i know wild child he had me convinced i was frigid or something, as i was not very experienced when i met him and he was fourteen years older. the first time i came with my new lover i was like OMG WHAT HAPPENED???? but you are so lucky runlola. as you have the benefit of our experience!

I am sorry that your man is quick draw mcgraw.

I am a 31 year old man myself and I had trouble lasting at one point as well.

Questions:

1. Have you discussed his utter lack of making you happy?
2. Does he ever return the favor through oral?
3. Have you ever given him an incentive to appease you (a last resort)?

Something I'd tell you to try if you are open enough.

Do something completely different and nastay. Get naked on your own and start without him (with toy or finger). Tell him your need to have a riproaring orgasm. In an act of quid pro quo, tell him that you will knock his socks off if he does it for you first.

I don't know any guys that can resist the sight of their woman touching themselves. If you make him feel wanted, he may change his ways. It sounds to me that sex to him is a routine. Also, I can never get a good orgasm by blowing my wad that quickly.

my new man also says the sight of me happy and enjoying myself in bed is the biggest turn on he can imagine, it improves things for him, maybe you could slant things that way, you know - if its better for me, its better for you - just a thought. thank you to the brave men that have posted in this thread for the male perspective, its always interesting.

Sounds like your boyfriend is doing the driving, with little input from his lovely lady. It might be a good idea to get to know yourself sexually before you attempt partner sex again. Once you can give yourself an orgasm, you might be better equipped to instruct your man on how to approach your body before and during sex. Settle down in a relaxing situation with some good erotica or your favorite fantasy and experiment with yourself - find out what turns you on and gets you off. Once you know your orgasm, I'll bet that you will be able to tell him what you want - Hopeless Dork has some good tips on how to initiate a discussion about what you need rather than make him feel inadequate. Best of luck!

Lady love,
K.

Hello all It's been a long time since my last post, but I figured this was an issue that I shouldn't rush. I've tried almost all of the advice/suggestions given but there's not much improvement.
He still ejaculates prematurely, and doesn't try any of the advice or suggestions I've shared. The most he says is "I'll work on it" and make mention of what I suggested, but it's been 2 months now with nothing to show. What we end up doing is just taking it very slow, and still having it last only one minute. I usually end up crying after from pure frustration while he's able to fall asleep with a big smile. I'm out of ideas and patience here.
As for the fact that I've never had an orgasm... I've tried on my own but nothing happens Still, it doesn't look like he will be the man, if there ever is one, to help me with that. I've tried making things "new and exciting" (ie: new location, new position, teasing...), but I just end up feeling rejected. If anything, trying to discuss things with him has brought everything downhill. It's gotten to the point where I feel lucky if there is even sex once every other week now. He no longer gives oral either. Sex is always at his call since he's hardly home anymore, and because he practically starves me for it, it's always there when he wants it.
He is terribly sweet though, and has a true heart of gold. He talks about our future together all the time. I honestly feel he just doesn't have the time (he works 50-60hrs a week), knowledge, or realize the importance of this to do anything about the problems we're having. In the end, it's not even the sex anymore but the fact that he's not working with me while I'm giving this my all. This "little" problem has begun to affect everything we do, and our relationship is falling apart. And I'm not sure I care enough to fix it anymore. In my heart I know if we didn't live together, and if I could stop feeling guilty and find some way to make him understand... there are other people I'd choose to be with.
Thanks for your help though, it still taught me a lot about what to expect from a relationship In the meantime, the lease is in my name but I still need him around to pay the rent for the next 8 months till it ends. Maybe it's time to move this to a different thread for issues on how to live together while not being "together" anymore.