Thread: Unexperienced Anal Sex

Hi I have a kinda embarrassing situation. Last night my husband of 10 years and I decided to try to have some anal play in the shower. Let me make it clear that we do not practice this kind of sexual activity but we are both curious about it. Anyway, he was all soapy and decided to try to put it in there, at first there was a little pain but after that it seemed okay, after the act, I found that my anus seemed to feel like it was on fire!!! This morning after I had a #2 it kinda burned but the burning passed. My bum feels tender and a bit sore and now I regret even trying it all together. Is this normal? Is the soap what caused the burning or did he tear my bum up? I am so worried and embarrassed I don't really want to tell the doctor what I did I just hope the tenderness goes away on it's own. How long does this kinda stuff hurt for? I have no bleeding just a tender sphincter or at least that is what it feels like. Please help!!! I am sooo foolish. I promise this will be the last time I do this!

The burning could very well be from what you said, if you tore a little and then soap got in there ouch, same as getting it in any place with a cut. I don't think you should feel embarrased to bring it up to your doctor should your condition worsen in anyway. They have seen and heard it all... a married couple doing anal in the shower would probably be the most normal thing they have heard that day.

I've got to say that was a pretty brave move attempting anal for the first time in that sort of position ( I can only think of a few you might have used while standing in a shower) Anal is something you definitely have to be relaxed for, to go slowly with lots of lubricant, stopping frequently for you to adjust to the size and build comfort ... all those steps will help prevent you from tearing.

If you are interested in trying again I'd suggest looking up some websites that give advice on the safest and most pleasurable ways to attempt the act.

The first time I did it, I had no burning whatsoever, the only issue I had was remaining anally dialated for long time after.. making air pass through in quite an embarassing fashion lol.

Omg!! thank you for respoding so fast Well I hate to be graphic but I had a # 2 and the burning has seemed to go away. I still feel a bit tender down there. I went to have a look at it and it certainly does look irritated and a bit red. The discomfort is not unberrable just kinda irritating I told my husband about it and he feels sooo bad about it I doubt he will even ask to try again lol. Is it common to have tenderness the day after the event? I agree with you that I have likely torn something. At least it feels like a posibility. I did notice the gas issue too last night after the act, but I figured he pushed air up there or something. I just can't believe I did all this in hopes to have fun only to walk away with a sore bum lol. Is standing in the shower a bad idea while trying anal? I was a anal virgin before last night, I think I am the only one he has ever tried it with too, maybe he was a bit to rough with it, I figured for the most part it was all normal. Like I said at first it hurt a bit when he put it in, then it became easier, he did mention needing lube though and that is where the soap came in, big mistake lol. I will definetly look up the right way to do this as I do not want to cause any damage to myself, this was supposed to be fun lol. Any ideas on healing time?

Originally Posted by foolishgirl

Is this normal? Is the soap what caused the burning

Yes, the burning's from the soap, healing time should be very fast (under 2 days for sure)

Like Hopeless Dork says the right way to do it is relax, use plenty of lube, and start with something smaller. When you're ready for him, choose a position where you can control the pace and take it slow until your body is ready for more.