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    I don't know what else to do or say, but my BF rathers have oral sex than intercorse. Ok... I know some guys really do prefer it, but my BF wants me to give him oral sex while he watchs porn on his cell phone and everything is always about compilatins or women with hughe breast. I feel really bad and I already have told him that, but he keeps saying it is normal, and he enjoys it.
    ??? What u guys think?

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    What does he do for your satisfaction? It has to be give and take. He sounds very selfish. You feel bad about it, why do you stay?

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    Quote Originally Posted by luna81 View Post
    I don't know what else to do or say, but my BF rathers have oral sex than intercorse. Ok... I know some guys really do prefer it, but my BF wants me to give him oral sex while he watchs porn on his cell phone and everything is always about compilatins or women with hughe breast. I feel really bad and I already have told him that, but he keeps saying it is normal, and he enjoys it.
    ??? What u guys think?
    Sorry... guy here... but I thought I should chime in. My wife and I have sex, foreplay, and even just spend time together watching porn. Not that we do it all the time, but it does happen every now and then, and its never just her or just me that asks for it. Porn is porn... you probably don't have as much interest in it as he does, but if he likes it, indulge him once and awhile.

    You say that you feel bad... what do you feel bad about exactly? Does it make you uncomfortable?

    Relationships are about compromise and as long as he understands how you feel about the matter, he should respect that as well. Everything in moderation right?

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    I think its more about what you get in return, it is normal for guys to enjoy porn, but if your just giving him oral and its all over he is being pretty selfish. Ask for what you need, tell him that you dont mind doing this for him but he in return has to do something for you as well.
    What makes you feel really bad? Do you feel more that he should concentrate on you or the fact that you feel he is more getting off over the images? Thats where the difference is i think all women are capable at some point of feeling bad about this when their self esteem is down but men need to reassure their women that they are what is important its all about balance.

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    I think he's asking for too much if he's not doing you a big favor in return.

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    but my BF rathers have oral sex than intercorse. Ok... I know some guys really do prefer it, but my BF wants me to give him oral sex while he watchs porn on his cell phone
    I think you feel tarty instead of a woman, would that be a way to describe it?

    You are basically saying, he skips the intercourse, skips the romance, intimacy, time together for you just giving him bj's whilst he's on a computer, or on a mobile phone.

    I think that that's different than doing that AND having intimate moments as well, so you feel special and his, or as two...

    ONLY, giving bj's whist he's watching porn, or talking to someone would be a huge turn on for him, can be for you, but without the passion and romance as well, I get what your saying you only feel like a sex object, catering to his wimbs.

    Tell him, your happy here and there but if he doesn't add to the relationship in the bedroom he can find someone else.

    No point you feeling degraded and un-loved, that's un-fair and not a relationship.

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    Quote Originally Posted by luna81 View Post
    I don't know what else to do or say, but my BF rathers have oral sex than intercorse. Ok... I know some guys really do prefer it, but my BF wants me to give him oral sex while he watchs porn on his cell phone and everything is always about compilatins or women with hughe breast. I feel really bad and I already have told him that, but he keeps saying it is normal, and he enjoys it.
    ??? What u guys think?
    That's a male fantasy, to be able to surf the web for porn and have your GF going down on you at the same time.

    It's a fantasy. It's not reality. A fantasy is something you indulge on special occasions, like getting dressed up as a French Maid or something out of Japanese Anime. It's not something you do as a routine part of a relationship. And he better be doing some nice things for you to deserve that in return.

    No man (notice I said MAN) in his right mind would treat something like that as if it were an expectation, something he deserves just for being your BF. It just doesn't work that way.

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    oh. sounds like something I would not tolerate. Not the act itself, maybe, just as Richard S said, it can be done once or twice. But constantly? When it makes you so uncomfortable? I'd say, definitely no-no.

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    Quote Originally Posted by luna81 View Post
    I don't know what else to do or say, but my BF rathers have oral sex than intercorse. Ok... I know some guys really do prefer it, but my BF wants me to give him oral sex while he watchs porn on his cell phone and everything is always about compilatins or women with hughe breast. I feel really bad and I already have told him that, but he keeps saying it is normal, and he enjoys it.
    ??? What u guys think?
    i'm surprised he doesn't have you service him by the kitchen stove so you can cook him some beef stew will he's getting off..he's only interested in the person he sees in the mirror while he's shaving..you're better off without him..
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    If this was a fantasy fullfillment , hey maybe a guy that say masturbated to a lot of porn all his life and always wished he was getting a bj at the same time.. yeah I could see it as a one-off , or if I liked it maybe more than that especially if they were indulging me in a fantasy of my own that I wanted fulfilled... but as routine sex?

    No way jose, my ego and self esteem could not handle it for one, and for two.. when would I be getting what I crave, how would I get intimacy from that? Being a human fleshlight under the desk for my guy would just not make me feel connected to him like I need.

    He is off his rocker to expect you do to that on a regular, and my guess is he must feel pretty dog gone sure you aren't going anywhere to treat you like that. You deserve better. Don't accept that and he will have to change, or you will get to move on to someone that is not such a feminine hygeine product - either way you win.
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