Problem with everlasting boy

**Daisie** · 05-17-2009 10:45 PM

Hey guys!, I'm dating this boy, he NEVER cums, I think because he is holding it. Last night we had 3 hours of non stopping sex at first is great but after 45 minutes its exhausting I don't know what to do, should I tell him that I get sore after 3 hours or should I be enjoying it? Sometimes it happens that he cums but he doesn't lose his hard on.. i mean wtf

Do you guys think he might be into viagra or something? lol on friday he picked me up from home and he already was hard as a rock

HELPP!! this neverr happened with another guy... besides i can't cum with him i don't know why! Am I broken?? It's like i'm thinking "COME ON CUM ALREADY!!"

I need some advice!

Thankss!

**amaranthine** · 05-17-2009 11:00 PM

I think 3 hours of sex is definitely too long... especially if there are no breaks in it. I KNOW I would be sore if I went on that long... not to mention worn out or even bored.
Maybe you could try to switch it up? Try having oral in between, try new positions, etc.

If you think he's taking something, why not just ask?

**Titch** · 05-17-2009 11:51 PM

Man I'd be sore after an hour, let alone three! I once dated a guy in the army and had a similar experience to you. At first I thought it was just because he had stamina and an insane amount of control over himself. But eventually I had to broach the subject with him, because I wasn't enjoying walking around like John Wayne the day after.

Turns out he was taking something beforehand. He was insecure about his sexual performance and had the mistaken impression that girls loved hours and hours and hours of foreplay and sex. He thought if he didn't give me this I wouldn't be satisfied and he'd be a failure as a man (or something along those lines, army types have strange notions!).

Of course you can't relax and enjoy yourself (and cum) if he's constantly pounding on you and all you can think is "HURRY UP ALREADY!" If you don't feel comfortable talking about it to him, or if you think you might offend him you can do as amaranthine suggested. You could just ask him if he is taking something. You can approach it in a laid-back, joking manner, maybe say something along the lines of "I've never met a man who can go for so long before! How do you do it!?"

**Hopeless Dork** · 05-18-2009 08:30 AM

I think Titch brings up a good point... it sounds like he is trying to impress you in bed and is receiving the very opposite result he's hoping for. I could not imagine wanting 3 hours of straight penetration. He is probably focusing so much on his performance that he isn't letting go enough to orgasm himself most times.

You will need to talk to him about it, its like a misunderstanding between what he thinks you want and what you actually want and I'd be willing to bet he'd be relieved to know that you don't require 3 hours of maintenance a night

**WildChild** · 05-18-2009 08:36 AM

I've dealt with this too, way before Viagra came into the picture. This guy could go 6 hours or more, it was an endurance contest and I quit playing after the first time. He never did it again but told me he could. I don't know what the deal was.

Certainly talk to him, find out if this is a medical problem or something he's doing to himself. I understand it can cause damage to stay errect for long periods of time. As for not cuming with him, have you never? Could it be a sort of stress thing because he lasts so long? Or is he just into himself and his amazing staying power that he substituting pounding at you for hours for any sort of skill, tenderness or technique?

**Daisie** · 05-18-2009 03:55 PM

I don't know if I can talk him about this because he's not even my boyfriend... we've dated for like a year but he doesn't want to go serious, I also found out that he was dating another girl too so I talked to her and we agreed that we wouldn't see him anymore but i couldn't keep my promise lol

Maybe i can't cum because he's so full of himself that he won't focus on me.. i told him several times that i always do everything for him but he wouldnt even make me cum and he salid he was sorry and that this never happened before.

The thing with him is that he's not any random guy that i can break up with and never see again i see him all the time even when we are mad or something we always go to the same places and have the same friends.. i cant help it... besides i like him so much but i feel that this "relationship" is going nowhere i'd like to be in a more serious relationship but i don't trust him at all and maybe thats the reason i can't cum with him

His friends say that he might be gay.. what do you think? i he were gay he couldn't bang me for 3 hours lol
I remember this time when he came to my house and we had sex for like 2 hours, he could cum wen't to the bathroom and came back hard and we did it again for like another 2 hours god i couldn't walk after that and he was ready to do it again ...

I feel like i can't make him cum.. like i'm not good enough in bed and that makes me sad... he says that he loves what i do but if he likes it so much WHY DOESN'T HE???

I'm so pissed... I don't know how to bring up this subject with him..

**dr.mansview** · 05-18-2009 04:02 PM

if he is going 3 hours without coming , he A-has a medical problem or B-when he nears orgasm he is thinking about baseball or work or his golf swing..once the tadpoles start swimming for the head of the penis it would take a knee to the "nads to stop me..

**blondie80** · 05-18-2009 06:30 PM

The way i see this you have 3 choices talk to him, put up with it and walk like you are in a western movie or walk away! Have you ever told him what a turn on it is for you to make him cum quickly or things like that sometimes gentle but blunt hints can be a good thing or a conversation starter or maybe after you guys have had sex sit and chat a little about things that you enjoyed and what you can do next time, it is a hard subject because you dont want to hurt feelings but at the same time your hurting yourself when you go for that long.
If you worry about not being able to trust him and things like that then that wouldnt help that you cant cum and to be blunlty honest if his ego is that big then he probably wouldnt really notice if he has ever made a girl cum before he is so focused on how long he is going that he thinks that he is super man because of it lol. I would just make little comments drop little hints if you cant approach the subject in some way shape or form your just not going to work it out.

**Haven** · 05-18-2009 06:54 PM

Last night we had 3 hours of non stopping sex at first is great but after 45 minutes its exhausting I don't know what to do, should I tell him that I get sore after 3 hours or should I be enjoying it?

By all means, tell him how you feel. Staying silent and coming back for more of the same will make him think you like things the way they are...

Sometimes it happens that he cums but he doesn't lose his hard on.. i mean wtf
Do you guys think he might be into viagra or something? lol on friday he picked me up from home and he already was hard as a rock

It does sound like he's taking something. A natural erection will quickly lose some of its hardness if it's not physically kept up.

I feel like i can't make him cum.. like i'm not good enough in bed and that makes me sad... he says that he loves what i do but if he likes it so much WHY DOESN'T HE???

I'm so pissed... I don't know how to bring up this subject with him..

You might just have to bite the bullet and bring it up out of the blue the next time the two of you are alone. He'll undoubtedly wonder why he's just hearing about this now, but you can tell him you just didn't know how to talk to him about it... then move on to actually talking about it.

**Joy** · 05-18-2009 10:02 PM

sounds like he is a bad match for you. you don't really enjoy the sex, he is into himself more than he is you, and you aren't really dating after all this time. If you are feeling bad about your self in bed cause of his lack of orgasim that is not good.

with the right person sex is effortless its just there cause the passion the feelings the emotion is all there. That chemisty that spark is there that hunger for your lover to be inside of you.

Sex with this guy sounds like a lot of mental anxiety and hard work. Sure the sex lasting 3 hours or more is great not each time then it would be boring and routine. It sounds to me your head is attracted to this guy but your heart wants someone else.