Penetration Problem

**DSR** · 05-22-2009 07:17 PM

Hi All,

I'm 27 Yr old, married for the last one year.
Myself and my husband are facing a problem recently...
Everytime He tries to insert the penis into my vagina, it slips upwards (outside) and it gives the same feeling that penis is going inside. We have had sex many times earlier and He had ejaculated too. But now we feel that penis had never gone inside and all these days we were actuallly doing it outside only. We are so very worried about this. Everytime He ejaculates, so much of sperm lies outside and even the bed becomes wet. Now we are trying for a baby and we feel that we are very unsuccessful. I didn' have any bleeding or immense pain so far and so He doubts that my hymen must not have broken yet. We are unable to find out which is the vaginal opening where the penis needs to be inserted. Anyones' sincere suggestions and advice is appreciated.

**WildChild** · 05-22-2009 07:38 PM

Hi DSR,
It's very hard to describe this and we aren't allowed to post outbound links. If you use your computer search engine, such as Google or Yahoo, and do a search for "female anatomy" you should find a number of excellent sites with drawings or photographs and markers showing what all the parts are called. I really encourage you to print out some of the diagrams and get a mirror and examine your vulva region. It's your body and you and your husband should become well aquainted with it.

Before he atempts to enter you, be sure you are well lubricated either naturally or using a personal lubrication product. Don't use vaseline or things like that for penetration. You need to work on this with enough light to actually see what you are doing and where his penis is going. Have your husband use his fingers first and gently slide them into your vagina, do some exploring and find out what feels good for you. If, in fact, he hasn't ever penetrated you it may hurt or burn a bit and you may bleed although many women don't. Just relax and see if you can have fun with it. But do take time to get to know your body it can give you great pleasure and joy if you do.

**dr.mansview** · 05-22-2009 10:04 PM

after a year of sex i can't imagine that either of you r unsure whether or not the penis has ever entered the vagina..try it with you on top..hubby can certainly feel and see that there is entry..i'm not a women but i've got to believe you cannot mistake something thrusting inside you from on top..a man certainly can tell when his penis is being stroked by a vagina in this position..

**amaranthine** · 05-23-2009 05:30 PM

.... Where else can a penis go if it's not in the vagina?

I'm sorry, but this is just very confusing to me.

**ItsASecret** · 05-23-2009 06:27 PM

Since you are 27, you will have taken sex ed in school. You may not remember anything from it but you will have taken it. I'm totally confused by this as well, and I'm not making fun of the situation but I am just genuinely concerned and astounded by this.

**WildChild** · 05-23-2009 07:52 PM

Actually you can't assume that everyone has had sex ed. We don't know were this poster is from or what schools they attended. It is entirely possible that neither she or her husband have had any education in this area. I've read material written by professionals who have in fact had clients in this situation. Hard as it may be to fathom, it's possible....

**Richard S** · 05-24-2009 02:42 AM

If you are trying to get pregnant, you should be seeing an Ob/Gyn. Have you ever had a pelvic exam? Also, when you get your period do you use a tampon? Just curious.

**DSR** · 05-24-2009 08:28 AM

Yes, I know it sounds confusing and strange. But am' writing this with anxiety. Whenever we try for intercourse, the penis moves towards Clytoral Glans and we get the same feeling as penis is moving somewhere inside. may be sounds strange, but true. I hane done an internal test and have PCOS and thyroid problems as well. I'm taking treatment for that. But our problem is penetration itself is unsuccessful

He can insert abt an inch of his finger, but when it comes to penis.... very difficult.

**nightqueen** · 05-24-2009 09:27 AM

But where else can it go? I mean, not to be too graphic, but in some positions, I don't see how this mistake could be made? Do you try different positions?

**ItsASecret** · 05-24-2009 09:30 AM

First off you need to aim the penis into the vaginal opening, the hole closest to the anus. Have lots of lube, unless you are already very wet and take your time. Don't bother trying to force it in. Go slow, get the head of the penis in, maybe half of it, whatever your body is comfortable with at first and from there push slowly in and out so your muscles can relax and allow the penis to slide in. Once that small bit slides with ease you will be able to go maybe another inch and repeat the process. Eventually it will go in and sex will happen the right way. Having the penis bang up against the clitoris will not give the same feeling as sex itself and once you have been able to have sex you will love it.

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