I recently "ended" a long term relationship because I my boyfriend of 4 years was not putting forth any effort in the relationship. We still talk, see each other and occationally have casual sex. He recently found out that I slept with another guy and now wants us to get back together (jealousy or he is afraid to lose me completely, i guess). I do love him, but I am afraid to get back together with him because I cant resist the temptation of other guys. There is just something about the touch of someone new that just drives me crazy. I look forward to finding someone new to mess around with. I have been seeing guys that I have been friends with, but could never do anything with before because I was in a relationship. Why do I want other guys when I truly am in love with my ex? I want him too, dont get me wrong. I just dont know how to resist the temptation. I dont know if this all makes any sense, but any thoughts would be appreciated.

I actually understand, although I have stayed away from long-term relationships for awhile. After I decided I needed to end my last serious relationship, I have kinda went wild. I love that first encounter, too, of a new guy. I also have no wishes currently to settle down with ANYONE. Perhaps in the future, but I need to see what I really want before I even think about being with only one person again.

I know a lot of people who are married, but practicing an open relationship. It's obvious that they can only love eachother, but they do not put the pressure of only being true to eachother on eachother. They have sex with eachother and it shows they are in love. They also have guidelines with sex with "strangers" including birthcontrol/condoms & the such. You could set your own rules if it worked out. Sex can be just sex. I know a lot of people shutter at such an idea, but it is true. I know this way of life doesn't work out with a lot of couples, however.

I guess if you do love him time will tell. From what I can tell about my friends who are true to eachother and just totally in love, they can't even fathom thinking of other people or even having sex with other people because they love eachother so much. Perhaps that is what people like your & I really need to keep out eyes out for.

Until then...have fun. You shouldn't settle back down just because he is feeling jealous. If he loved you, he would truly just let you go. Jealousy tends to stem from a need for someone rather then loving someone.

thanks...im glad im not the only one