"Shrtly after you got married you lost interest in him sexually"...
Do you know why? Have you ever sat down and asked whether it was all there before you got married, or whether the playing wife/cleaner/cook, made you feel differently and look at the relationship differently, like you were owned, or a maid?
I am just curious that's all.
I married someone who changed like the wind once married. Became lazy, to the extent of even taking garbage out or, pruning rose bushes, or turning a tap on so the sprinkler would water the gardens whilst I was still working, would be out and get home after guests arrived, even though he was meant to clean the BBQ and get ice, etc, etc, etc, that's enough to be turned of a guy sexually and not want to give him jack shirt, trust me... That was for 7 years...
Like you, I realised that i was very sexual and it wasn't me, and I hope not like me, depends on what you can solve from this, i walked in the end..
It's not all sex, rather, living in a loveless marriage that is really only flat mates and a friend, laughter, but no passion, lust, love... Rather, in, out, roll over, thanks, sleep.. No thanks.