when goin out with your b/f though u have never had sex how do you knwo when the right time to have a pap is? i have had a few probs. just itchin and my current prob and would like to know that everything is just a ok but am bit embarresd any body offer sum advice?

If you're having problems, the right time is... now!
even if the problems aren't bad, it would still be good for you to know that everything is okay.
Whether or not you had sex doesn't matter so much, you could get a disease from somewhere else too. You need to tell the doctor what you've been doing though, so they can give you the right treatment if needed.

As far as I understood, you feel uncomfortable with going to a doctor though.. well maybe it would help if you brought a friend along who'd wait with you in the waiting room, the best would of course be someone who's been there before.
I hope you can overcome your nervousness, just remember that these doctors do that dozens of times every day... to them it's like any other job where people do the same thing over and over again.