mariaguzman86

Alright so I have several questions....
My boyfriend and I tried it with me on top when we first started having intercourse but for some strange reason it did nothing for me. So a few days ago we gave it another try and bingo! I had my first big O and the next time we did it he got his "most intense orgasm" as he told me... but yesterday we tried it again and I started getting this "low" pain like on the inside (not on my vagina but like on my lower stomach if you know what I mean). I was sloppy cause it was hurting me and he told me he felt a certain something on the inside too... It doesn't happen on other positions, just on that one... so i got worried (I'm a hypochondriac ) What do u guys think it is?
Also, I tend to feel a sharp pain when he first enters me, what's the deal? (I have been active for like 8 months now and it's weird).
And finally, latelly I dry out sometimes during sex. The first time it happened we thought it had something to do with the condom but it has happened again. It's perfectly fine at the beginning but then i dry out. He helps me but it can hurt sometimes... what now?
Sorry it was this long but I guess i have a lot of questions...
Thanks!

Iseulda

I expect what your bf felt with you on top was your fornix - you on top, depending on how you control it, can be a deep penetration position and his penis probably went deeper than it has before into the part of the vagina past the cervix called the fornix. The cervix is on the side of the vaginal canal - not at the end and there is a sort of 'cul de sac' past the cervix, that's the anterior fornix. It would have felt a little tighter to him perhaps - some women, and their partners, can even feel a little 'pop' when the fornix is penetrated. For some women it is the key to a really intense orgasm, for others not so much but still feels good, others don't like it at all. I'm the first type - but that's neither here not there for you

If this is what happened then you could be feeling a slight muscle ache from having pressure there when you are not used to it - the fornix is close to the rectum and pressure there can be transferred to the colon and feel like lower stomach pressure.

There's nothing dangerous or even risky about any of that - you're just new to it. From what you say your boyfriend listens to you and when you say you are uncomfortable he'll change what he's doing til you are enjoying it again. Keep that up and you'll find your limits.

The sharp pain on penetration is, most likely, an inability to relax on your part. No matter how turned on and relaxed you feel there can still be a little tension in the vaginal muscles. Practise kegel exercises (google kegel) - these will strengthen those muscles, tone them and give you more control of them. I expect the dryness of late is related to the fact that you are worried about these things. During sex does your mind wander to these things that have been bothering you? If so that may be distracting you from the pleasure and causing you to dry up. No big deal - buy some condom friendly lube and use it as you need it.

Summary - there's nothing at all wrong and it's great that you have a caring and responsive boyfriend to have those wonderful orgasms with.

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mariaguzman86

Oh my I can't thank you enough for ur thorough explanation! Loved it!
I am relatively new to all of this so everytime I feel something different I tend to be a bit nervous or even frustrated sometimes.
I will be paying close attention to everything and let you know how everything goes.
I am definitely gonna try does kegel exercises...
you have been very helpful, thank you.