Thread: How Much Is Too Much?

My boyfriend and I have a great sex life; however, he seems to want to do it far more often than I want to. There have been some instances where we have done it upwards of 3 times a day; Not a bad thing, however I get "sexed out" and sometimes won't be in the mood for a while, whereas he is able to go again and again and again. I find that the more we do it in a short period of time, I get a little sore "down there" and it makes it a bit difficult for me to enjoy myself.

I know girls hit their sexual peak earlier than guys do, and I am one year older than my boyfriend; could this be the main cause of me getting "sexed out" after numerous daily romps in the bedroom?

Sometimes I feel that something isn't right with me, because I WANT to go again, but I physically can't do it. Any suggestions?

"girls hit their sexual peak earlier than guys do"? You think?

I always understood that men are at their sexual peak in their late teens and early twenties and that women are at their most sexual in their forties.

That aside, you don't say what ages you both are and a one year difference isn't going to be a big deal. People vary - heck, my guy is 18 years older than me and there are days he wears me out.

If his sexual appetite is greater than yours and it is causing you physical discomfort then you need to talk to him about that. If he is horny and you are sore then don't have sex just to humour him - if you want to help him get sated there are other things you can do that will allow cooch recuperation - handjob, oral, frotting. You can also stimulate yourself without penetration, or he can; a bullet vibe (small vibe mainly for clitoral stimulation), oral, etc..

The other thing you could do, sometimes, is ask him to be more gentle with you. I apologise if I have it wrong, but I'm assuming that the sex that leaves you sore is rather vigorous. I like vigorous sex, it's great - but if it is leaving you sore then, if he wants it again, he should consider being a little more gentle. Pick a position like spooning - lots of stimulation for him but not so deep for you, and the penetration will concentrate pressure in different areas inside you than positions like missionary or doggy.

I'm ignoring the obvious idea that you can say no and he can masturbate. You sound like you're happy with the level of intimacy and sexual contact - you just don't want the discomfort, or to be turned off sex by it (however short term that turn off is).

Its not that the sex is vigorous; its just so frequent at times, I guess my body doesn't have time to rest and then be able to get stimulated and wet again? does that make sense? I do plan on talking with him about it though. Thanks for your input.

There is nothing wrong with you. Your body just needs time to get ready again. Instead of sex try new ways to get your partner to reach and orgasm. Whether it's a BJ, HandJob, etc. Try different ways so that all the focus isn't on your vagina.