Thread: i want to die!

The dreaded anal experience. The boyfriend is so insistent on trying it. In the past we tried it but it was too much for me and we stopped and before, he used to finger me during sex and i enjoyed it but now i'm too scared and i don't know why.. I do wanna try it, but then again i don't. I told him i want to and we will eventually but he keeps asking about it. I dunno. I feel bad in a way but don't know what to do. I even told him i'm scared and recently he's come up with the assumption that it's merely because i don't trust him (which definitely stung!)

I tried it a few weeks ago but i was soo tense and stressed out about the idea that he couldnt get it in...lol i felt relieved by that but im still really really curious to try it...maybe some alcohol in the mix might do the trick :P

haha the very first time i did anal that happened to us, but he moved on and still wants it all the time. he knows.. happens...haha, nice pun! anyway,this wont be the last time something like this will happen. just clean up real well. stay hygenic about it.

Originally Posted by ami

I am a male and since recently I have been very much interested in anal sex. I am watching porn especially anal sex (on youporn). I have never tried anal sex before but I will be happy to give it a try. My question is those women I see on youporn look very clean inside their anus. What do they use to clean that part because I have seen the men liking and the women giving oral right after doing anal.

Thanks

Sorry ami, but this is another case where porn does not give you a clear idea of reality. There is no telling what those women do, probably involves a series of enemas and Lord knows what else. If you ever have anal sex with a real woman, never ever put your penis in her mouth or her vagina after it has been in her bum. Its just a really, really bad idea. Could give her diarrhea, bacterial infections of her reproductive or urinary tract, all sorts of nasties.

As far as licking her anus, as long as she's had a shower or recently cleaned her anal area and hasn't had a bowel movement since, I wouldn't worry too much about that, it should be clean enough for some tongue action.

Originally Posted by ami

My question is those women I see on youporn look very clean inside their anus. What do they use to clean that part because I have seen the men liking and the women giving oral right after doing anal.

The great pre-anal sex ritual. (for men and women)

1. Void bowels. Coffee and cigarettes help (maybe a milkshake if your lactose intolerant)

2. Enema. Typically just warm water.

3. Stretching (you never see this part on porn unless you watch behind-the-scenes on certain DVDs). Typically done with well-lubed fingers or a buttplug. The stretching phase is the most important and beginners will find themselves making multiple toilet breaks as your brain equates stretchiness with fullness. Just let your body try to void (which will only be lube if you followed 1 and 2), wipe yourself with a moist towelette or baby-wipe, and get back at it.

4. Lube. Apply generous amounts of lube to the phallus (or toy of choice), to the butthole, and try to get lube into the colon itself (Yes, they sell anal sex lube syringes just for this... and no they dont have needles).

5. Condom. Make sure your lube is latex safe. The guy certainly doesn't want any stray fecal matter in his urethra (Hello urinary tract infection).

5. Penetration. Go slow.

6. Clean-up. Soapy water. Both partners. Then wash the toy(s). Some toys are dishwasher safe.

I just think...having bum love feels like having a big stubborn poo! So it'd be no surprise to me if Mr Poo made an appearance. I had Anal once and it went pretty well I guess, didn't hurt, took it slow, no messy mis-haps wasn't AS shameless as I expected...I'd do it again but VERY VERY rarely once every year or so. As I said...felt like I was making a toilet.


He'd probably love it, all he ever talks about is how great of a number 2 he had today...he's be in his element

Originally Posted by SinisterUrge

The great pre-anal sex ritual. (for men and women)

1. Void bowels. Coffee and cigarettes help (maybe a milkshake if your lactose intolerant)

2. Enema. Typically just warm water.

3. Stretching (you never see this part on porn unless you watch behind-the-scenes on certain DVDs). Typically done with well-lubed fingers or a buttplug. The stretching phase is the most important and beginners will find themselves making multiple toilet breaks as your brain equates stretchiness with fullness. Just let your body try to void (which will only be lube if you followed 1 and 2), wipe yourself with a moist towelette or baby-wipe, and get back at it.

4. Lube. Apply generous amounts of lube to the phallus (or toy of choice), to the butthole, and try to get lube into the colon itself (Yes, they sell anal sex lube syringes just for this... and no they dont have needles).

5. Condom. Make sure your lube is latex safe. The guy certainly doesn't want any stray fecal matter in his urethra (Hello urinary tract infection).

5. Penetration. Go slow.

6. Clean-up. Soapy water. Both partners. Then wash the toy(s). Some toys are dishwasher safe.

And they have anal bleaching. Very strange

when my bf and i do this, we get up, go to the bathroom and jump in the shower...no one looks lol....everyone (well i guess ALMOST everyone) knows there may be some 'thing' therelol

jwhinne that is a brilliant idea!

I actually do enjoy anal sex, i find i get bigger orgasms, and its a turn on for us both. It doesn't hurt if done properly and with respect.