Thread: Pleaseee answer me ladies!!! :(

So you can orgasm, at your own hand and during foreplay (and afterplay) with him - you want to orgasm during penetrative sex.

Well - you need to ask yourself some questions about the orgasms you do have.

What kind of stimulation makes you orgasm? Clitoral? Vaginal penetration? G-spot specific? Something else?

If you masturbate by rubbing your clitoris then try having sex in a position where you, or he, can stimulate you in the way that makes you orgasm. That's how I had my first orgasms during intercourse - basically masturbating myself to orgasm while getting the stimulation of penetration as well. Doggy and spooning are great positions to one or both of you a free hand to stimulate your clitoris or other parts during intercourse.

Some women never orgasm from penetrative sex alone and need extra stimulation. Some are perfectly happy with the foreplay / afterplay orgasms you already get but there's nothing wrong with wanting more - there's also nothing wrong if you can't achieve it.

Another thing you can try is g-spot stimulation. Have you found your g-spot yet? We're all a bit different but the quickest way to mine is a common one - have your boyfriend put his middle and index finger inside your vagina with his palm facing toward him, then have him make a beckoning motion with those two fingers, you know, like calling a waiter over. If you're anything like me you'll go week at the knees - if you're not then he may need to try a little higher up, or lower down, or a slightly different pressure. You'll know it when you feel it. Once you both identify this spot together then you can try different position that means his penis is stimulating that spot during intercourse. For me on my back with my legs on his shoulders is the optimal one.

Try lots of different things - don't just lie there letting him put it in and out - that will lead to unsatisfying sex for both of you. But don't worry if you don't orgasm - stressing about is only going to make achieving it more difficult. Enjoy the orgasms you do have and the intimacy of looking for new ways to give each other varied pleasure.