Thread: Help with vaginal question as get older

Originally Posted by WildChild

He must be aware enough to really respond to those endorphines you release. Having essentially denied or ignored female sexuality for generation upon generation, we don't really know all that much about normal sexuallity. I'd venture a guess (call it intuition) that if you keep thinking "juicy", he'll keep responding.

I'll hold that reply as my positive thought it generally won't change. He moans, trembles, and whines pleasure wise more when doing that than with anything I can do to or for him (in a way embarrassing).

I just never had a man so into it before, to the point he cums just from eating me if I let him stay down there to long without stopping him. So it's a very major factor or act in sex for him.

Whatever it is, I need to clone it for resale. From reading here so many men are totally not into oral, I think I'd make money.

I asked him early on if I tasted, felt, or smelled "special", guess I was looking for a compliment. Of course he said no, I was "normal". He just always got aroused and wanted it a lot, only 1 partner he couldn't even once the first time as she was way to strong in a very bad way when she got undressed. Apparently she freaked and walked when he tried to polite suggest some hygiene ideas.

To him it also demonstrates closeness, giving, exclusive, and love far more than interourse. He's always calls intercourse "f**king." I'd never considered it before but agree with that now. Men said whatever to screw me, never had a previous guy say "I love you let me eat you." And past men were pushy early, I had zero pressure from him and it took me to get the ball rolling.

I was never really a , but I've had a lot more partners than he has despite me being younger. I went through the "they're hot looking but an , OK for now" years. But it was nothing for him to go a 1-2 years often without finding someone he even wanted to ask out, when he had the courage due to shyness.

Our first time he came just from eating me and was ashamed and embarrassed as heck. The 2nd time we went to bed we played, kissed, talked and all normal foreplay stuff. Then he me got off orally, but that ended it and was all he wanted us to do, despite being so hard I thought he'd hurt himself. On the way taking me home he said "I wanted to be in you big time but really need you to know you're not just "a f**k or release tool." We didn't have actual intercourse till the third time.

We talked in depth about a lot of aspects of sex before we ever went to bed. He's was very honest, open, and matter of fact in that type of discussion, not ever wanting to be in another relationship that was incompatable (at 44 he's never had a "one nighter"). I admired the open and honest talks, though sometimes my panties were soaked knowing he was saying stuff that was true but didn't want to go to bed at that point in the relationship.

But his past partners made him VERY unhappy (sad) or feel bad about his sexual self from the high want to give oral in various ways:

1) not letting him give them oral in any position except her laying down on her back (ever)

2) making no sound, no movement/reaction at all, or never touching his head or hair when giving them oral. He enjoys himself more knowing I enjoy what he's doing.

3) not letting him just go down on them and nothing else, at times he only wanted to do just that

4) Past women (most of my friends are the same) wouldn't kiss after receiving oral, that made him feel dirty, unwanted, or used

5) telling him he was wierd, gross, or other put downs about what he liked doing so much, or if he asked them to not totally shave. He's of the age that saw that trend come into play

We've all had bad partners or incompatable and they were that way for whatever cause or fault. I love all the stuff his past women didn't. I never got oral before in some of the positions he likes, and he likes tham often.

My past men were generally after my chest, wanted BJs, or 2 minute them only intercourse. Face it, till some point in life the average man is talk the talk, spend some money, now expect laid or a BJ. That's dating to them, the good parts becoming less as after the first time it's an assumed outlet for free. Just physical and social maturity level.

It was over a year till he let me take his penis in my mouth at all, and 3 years till he let me make him cum for me from me doing oral the first time (he still never asks for that, doesn't care). It took months to teach him to want or really use my chest in sex, he never cared about boobs and never was with a woman who had large ones before me (he loves them now). The didn't care about boobs thing threw me for a loop as I always felt they are (still do) my best physical trait. But past men I had to push them down there with what they wanted only given if they did that first. Younger men named my boobs, I think all men do. He nicknamed my lower area.

On his first birthday together I made him let me take him somewhere, he's a real prick about not wanting gifts or money spent on him. He picked the back corner of a diner drinking coffee for hours and talking (not what I'd ever pick). I asked him why I still made him horny and hot for me. None of his replies were EVER mentioned or even asked for by any past partners, BUT at then 41 he was the oldest guy I'd been with (I was 30):

1) I have long and generally "big" hair and just looking at it made him hard. It's now even longer and bigger styled.

2) The fact I talked or said anything to him during sex makes him feel I want just him, instead of just getting laid by a pulse. He never had that before. I've trained myself to automatic talk a LOT more.

3) Me saying or doing what I want or want him to do. He had "old school" partners who mostly just laid there and expected to be serviced when they let him. I'm in charge and control 99% of the time now, even if just telling to do what I know he wants to (that gets him off).

3) But his selfish answer, the for him only one, was "you let me eat you whenever I want, will kiss me after, and let me stop and just look at your pu**y" while I'm doing it." I was very uncomfortable with a man wanting to just look at me down there for a few moments, but am fine with it now (he talks to me while he looks). I'm am NOT one to change for a man or do anything I don't want to, at any time, ever. But after he explained the what and why, I did let my pubic hair grow for him because it was a major thing for him. I'd been total shaved for years.

But boobs, BJs, anal sex, facials, 3 women, and all the other stuff I've been asked for #1 wasn't mentioned and doesn't make his want or wish list. He's my first partner who didn't try or at least wish to get one of my girlfriends in bed with us.

I cherish (and laugh) when I remember our first time even though it wasn't "normal" sex. Telling a guy he can have anything he wants (and he knew I meant ANYTHING) and have him say "I just want to look at all of you for awhile and go down on you" was a precious moment for me as a woman. He'd had me before mentally and emotionally, at that point he owned me.

When all I see is his eyes and forehead down there I know he's as happy as he can be sexually. He may not me normal, but what's normal ?? My 3 closest friends said they're husbands (we're not married) told them eventually the first time they saw them they instantly wanted to f**k them forever. Mine told me the 3rd time we were in bed when I first talked to him, he knew he would want to eat me forever if I'd let him.

I think most women are complicated while most men are easy to predict or please regarding sex. Not liking to call him odd or wierd, my guy is maybe compicated or wired different. He took a lot of mental or viewpoint adjusting (awareness) on my part, nothing I expected at when I was 29-30. Now that I understand all the why and how, we're very, very happy. He completes my life because he's added so much to it.

Originally Posted by shweedart

does he have a brother

LOL no, just a sister he adores. I have thought about cloning him to make money, but he isn't perfect for everyone either. You take a balance of good and bad parts with people, what some think is good others might not like.

He gets verbal in public with someone who mistreats a pet or is rude/crude to a female. Lots of times we're asked to leave restaurants, parties, etc from that.

If someone asks him a question or opion he replies. But a lot more "real" than most ever would. He's right 99.9% of the time in seeing people how they are. But telling 1 of my girlfriends who asked what he thought of the guy she was dating "he's an arrogant snot" is the kind of thing that comes out. Sometimes I grit my teeth waiting for the reply if someone asks him something.

If I sneeze or cough once he wants to take me to the ER and have me stay home from work. Same with our pets.

And he gives up anything for himself, or works to hard, to get me anything I want. There is a "safe amount" of giving and he's unaware that his way can be physically harmful to himself. So I pay close attention to what I say instead of being as casual as I was before saying "I like this or that" or "that's cute" if I see something.

He takes a lot of costly meds since heart surgery. A couple months ago I had to freak on him for buying me a leather dress and shoes I liked with his meds budget money. Made him return it, even though it killed me seeing how upset he was at me not having the stuff. The fact his meds are life essential didn't matter at all compared to me having a dumb dress I liked.

I let him have one $300 credit card now. When we combined finances I let him have one with a $1,000 limit. He maxed the first one in less than a month on lingerie and metal/biker type outfits for me on the Internet.

So unless you exert some strong balance and control over him, he's not the right man for everyone. You could easily end up in major debt with just some closets full of jewelry and gear to show for it.

Wow, serious? You're a lucky woman!!! Serious, his faults aren't so bad (infact his faults are really positives!!!) except the last one. He seems the type to have been raised REALLY well. He is so respectful! I'm in shock. My bf is brought up real well too, but he'd rather make love than eat me out like the "norm".