Thread: help with my wife

I believe that it is definitely a self esteem issue. I agree about sending her emails (if possible) throughout the day/week, telling her how much you love her and how beautiful she is. More importantly, you need to tell her WHY you love her and think she's beautiful. Go into detail. Then, when you get home, just be patient with her and tell her that you want to show her how much you missed her and go slow. Hopefully her issues aren't from abuse, because then she definitely needs to get some professional help. I wish you luck with her and think you are an awesome man for wanting to please her so much!

Your wife sounds like a sexually vibrant woman, masturbating, porn etc.. and the ability to admit she does that to you, even if she's too shy yet to include you. It sounds like a self esteem issue and those are something you can't fix... she has to fix herself, how she feels about herself but you CAN help.

Telling her she's beautiful or any variation of that, for no reason at all... not just when you want sex. Telling her how much she turns you on. NOT checking out women in front of her, or commenting on oh so and so is so hot (until she gets more comfortable with herself this only makes a girl with low self-esteem feel inadequate.) That last part may sound silly and likely is, but we compare ourselves to everyone.. those of us in the insecure group. Even if you don't... we are doing that. When watching tv together and a hot woman comes on .. you don't (not saying you do this) need to point out what a great rear end she has to US... we noticed it before you did, have calculated and quantified how much better it is than our own and are now holding our breath hoping you don't drop your jaw to the floor and make it painfully obvious you feel the same way.

Its in little ways that you can help, but she will ultimately need to search within herself and find peace with who she is and accept that you love her for all her attributes and flaws alike.

ty for the help im going to start i figured later this week i was going to get the same exact thing i bought here the 3rd night we dated a card in a bag full of roses only this time im going to include sumthing extra and hopfully she will recall the fact i rememberd i know guys probly wouldnt but i think wemon clue in any ways better on things