Thread: Married Virgin!

I dont mean that about the fluids-i just mean-the fact that I bleed out of it and pee out of it-even though i wipe and shower it's just gross to think about-and yeah i trim mine and does make me feel beter about it-

Originally Posted by blueeyeblondesweetheart

I shave and my husband loves it.

Doesn't shaving create stubble afterwards? Do you do it every day like you would for legs and underarms? I was thinking about waxing, but I don't know how bare I want to go. Maybe start with a Bikini wax first.

Yes, definitely shave the bikini line, and then trim the rest to 1/4 or 1/2 inch. It will make it a lot better down there for you and for him. As Jay Leno once said, "You don't want to be a wholly mammoth down there!" That's not very attractive in my opinion. Have you tried gently stretching your hymen with your fingers? This might be a good thing for your husband to do for you! I know some doctors do it before delivery to their patients so that they don't tear. Use a lubricant and try it-it may be worth it! I'd do it everyday though. Once you have sex, it will just get better and better and you'll love it if your husband takes the time to please you, and it sounds like he's very patient and will.

Originally Posted by sexymamaof4

Yes, definitely shave the bikini line, and then trim the rest to 1/4 or 1/2 inch. It will make it a lot better down there for you and for him. As Jay Leno once said, "You don't want to be a wholly mammoth down there!" That's not very attractive in my opinion. Have you tried gently stretching your hymen with your fingers? This might be a good thing for your husband to do for you! I know some doctors do it before delivery to their patients so that they don't tear. Use a lubricant and try it-it may be worth it! I'd do it everyday though. Once you have sex, it will just get better and better and you'll love it if your husband takes the time to please you, and it sounds like he's very patient and will.

Thank you-we will try that-yeah he's very patient-6/11/07 will be a year...

Doesn't hurt much at all, and it takes
a few seconds. After that, there's no
problem.

I used to be very self-conscious of my body, too. My problem was with the whole hair thing. I think that our modern society has painted a very warped picture about how we women need to "fix" our bodies. "If you don't wax all that hair off...you are disgusting and shameful." I am like the lady who said something about God not making any trash. God created us the way that He wanted us to be. If He would have wanted us to be all smooth and hairless down there, then He would have made it that way to begin with. He makes no mistakes. You have a sweet husband who apparently loves you very much. He finds you beautiful. You need to accept that, like I had to. My man thinks I am just the most beautiful thing he has ever seen. I thought he was crazy when I heard him say it for the first time about "down there." I actually cried because I was so ashamed for him to see. He helped me to see my own beauty...a special kind of beauty that I only have with him. Girlie, don't be scared or ashamed. I totally understand how you feel, but it is GREAT when you finally get over it!!!! I am still not the type to dance around in front of a camera naked or anything; but there is a very new, sweet, and special "something" about how I feel with the man that made me conquer my own fears about my own body. Hope I have helped you a tiny bit!

Originally Posted by txsbutterfly

I used to be very self-conscious of my body, too. My problem was with the whole hair thing. I think that our modern society has painted a very warped picture about how we women need to "fix" our bodies. "If you don't wax all that hair off...you are disgusting and shameful." I am like the lady who said something about God not making any trash. God created us the way that He wanted us to be. If He would have wanted us to be all smooth and hairless down there, then He would have made it that way to begin with. He makes no mistakes. You have a sweet husband who apparently loves you very much. He finds you beautiful. You need to accept that, like I had to. My man thinks I am just the most beautiful thing he has ever seen. I thought he was crazy when I heard him say it for the first time about "down there." I actually cried because I was so ashamed for him to see. He helped me to see my own beauty...a special kind of beauty that I only have with him. Girlie, don't be scared or ashamed. I totally understand how you feel, but it is GREAT when you finally get over it!!!! I am still not the type to dance around in front of a camera naked or anything; but there is a very new, sweet, and special "something" about how I feel with the man that made me conquer my own fears about my own body. Hope I have helped you a tiny bit!

If this was for me-thank you-Yeah I feel the same way-he tells me "it's" beautiful-and Im like EWW..haha. i mean i dont tell him that but I think, how in the world can he think that-but I am learning to accept it..we still havent had sex-but thats not because of me not liking my body-it's the discomfort i guess you'd say-well thanks again for all your advice-God Bless!

Don't you have any close friends? If you do ask them what why would do because you are scared. I used to be scared but it all takes time. You need to relax and just remember that it is apart of the circle of life. Everyone does it and you are lucky to have someone who is very understanding but you have to remember that he can't wait to long either. You can lose him.

You need to try this. You lay naked in bed and your husband just needs to touch you all over your body lightly. He needs to just run his fingers over your body and you will be suprised with all feelings that you get. He can slide his fingers over your stomach, back, legs, feet, and everywhere else. Just remember that this doesn't have to lead to sex but it will make you more comfortable in showing your body and finding new feelings about certain places.

AND REMEBER TO RELAX. He loves you and wants to take care of you.

Originally Posted by rubyb324

Don't you have any close friends? If you do ask them what why would do because you are scared. I used to be scared but it all takes time. You need to relax and just remember that it is apart of the circle of life. Everyone does it and you are lucky to have someone who is very understanding but you have to remember that he can't wait to long either. You can lose him.

You need to try this. You lay naked in bed and your husband just needs to touch you all over your body lightly. He needs to just run his fingers over your body and you will be suprised with all feelings that you get. He can slide his fingers over your stomach, back, legs, feet, and everywhere else. Just remember that this doesn't have to lead to sex but it will make you more comfortable in showing your body and finding new feelings about certain places.

AND REMEBER TO RELAX. He loves you and wants to take care of you.

O yeah I mean we do everything else-we do that all the time-Its just the entry-It's not that I dont want to do it-It's I can't lol it hurts to bad-to even barely try-even a finger-I can get very wet and it still doesnt help as soon as we try to I dry up and tense up-O yeah we explore each other's bodies-and I know I wont loose him-because he knows it's not that I dont want to-its that it hurts to bad- thanks for the advice though-and I do try to relax and I am up untill he tries to enter and I just cant do it..

CJ, a Baby passes through the Vagina.
A Baby's head is roughly the size of a
grapefruit.

Obviously, you need to urgently see
a doctor. I have a feeling your problem
is much more serious than you think.