Thread: Married Virgin!

Alrighty..well I got married June 11, 2006 and it is now December 28, 2006 which makes almost 7months-and we haven't had sex-I have never been fingered and never worn a tampon-I'm tighter than a key hole..lol-Everytime we try I can't imagine that big thing going into my tiny hole w/out A LOT of pain! I have never had a gyno look me down there because I think it's the grossest part of the body-all the hair and smells and fluid-YUCK! And also I am afraid of the spectrum thing hurting-I have NO tolerance for pain! AT ALL! So I guess what I'm trying to get is ..how do you do it-I know that almost 70% of you have had sex-and I want to know why I can't I mean there has got to be a way for me to do this w/out pain-and if not-I'm afraid I will NEVER do it! My husband is very understanding and thats awesome-I feel sorry for him-we will try and it hurts and I just get frustrated-I mean he can't even get a pinky in me! This is ridiculous! well any suggestions..thanks..

You have a very thick hymen.
It happens.
You have to go to a gynie for her
to actually cut it. That's all it takes.
They'll give you a local anesthia...
it won't hurt much.

Wow, seven months of marriage and no sex...Your husband must be very understanding. I agree with that girl, where you do need to see the gyno...and not only for that reason, but just for a normal check-up. You'll be fine... It takes time...just work your way up...and 'down there' isn't gross, it's part of your body! You should learn to love it, and love everything about your body...it's an amazaing thing...

Originally Posted by kaylar

You have a very thick hymen.
It happens.
You have to go to a gynie for her
to actually cut it. That's all it takes.
They'll give you a local anesthia...
it won't hurt much.

yeah, i was afraid of that I've read up on it and figured thats what I'd have to do-have you had it done?! and could you tell a big diff. afterwards? thanks for your info!

Originally Posted by Jean17

Wow, seven months of marriage and no sex...Your husband must be very understanding. I agree with that girl, where you do need to see the gyno...and not only for that reason, but just for a normal check-up. You'll be fine... It takes time...just work your way up...and 'down there' isn't gross, it's part of your body! You should learn to love it, and love everything about your body...it's an amazaing thing...

yes he's an awesome guy! yeah I need to go-i dont think i'll ever LOVE it but I might get over the fact that it's not repulsive..lol-thanks for the encouragement I guess that means i'm off to the gyno! GRRR!!!!

Your views on your body is my biggest concern Have you talked to a counselor? Most of us were brought up in a different time but still love every part of our bodies whether fat tall skinny short
Perhaps with some counseling you might learn to love ALL of your body!
If anything your Vagina is the part you should love the most! It makes you a Woman And bieng a Woman is part of who you ARE!

I mean I'm glad that i have one and that my husband likes it-but i dont think it's attractive and would feel wierd if i did-i like my body it's just i dont see how that part can be beautiful to anyone-but hey if he likes it..more power to him-just like i guess how his man hood is attractive-

Originally Posted by CJT61106

I mean I'm glad that i have one and that my husband likes it-but i dont think it's attractive and would feel wierd if i did-i like my body it's just i dont see how that part can be beautiful to anyone-but hey if he likes it..more power to him-just like i guess how his man hood is attractive-

Hi.You said smells,fluids and hair make you feel yucky.You shouldn't have a bad smell and you could always shave off the hair.I shave and my husband loves it.I don't have a smell and I don't have fluids come out of it either.Maybe you should see a doctor because you might have an infection.And if you don't want to shave it all the way you could always just trim it.Hope this helps and good luck.Sex with your soul mate is a beautiful thing!

I just trim real close and that makes mee feel better about down there and the hair grows soo slow its not that much upkeep well I have to shave every other day but as for the trims like once a month!!