rebellee47

Wanting to see my wife enjoy some serious sex with a very well hung male. It has long been a fantasy of mine to see this and I have seen her mind blowing orgasms from very large dildos and I am wondering if the real thing would even be better . We have discussed it some but actually her interest always seems to lean towards wanting to try something with another women ? She has some hangups about the cheating thing and that so far seems to be an obstacle we cant get over just yet . I have assured her that trying either would be OK with me I just want her o experience the pleasure rather than always wondering what it would have been like . We are both in our mid to late 40's Anyone else ever ran into anything like this? If so did you go thru with it ? If so was it what you thought it was ? Lee

CHANDLERS WISH

Hi Lee,

Good to see you back, it's been a long while. I guess we certainly have alot more new members since you last posted.

I remember you asking this question before to a degree.

It's still evident that you love your wife but I do get her love for you and feeling that she would be cheating and sex isn't the be all and end all where love is concerned and trying different toys and lengthy foreplay would satisfy alot of women whom didn't even have committed loving partners that they adore.

I am sure you will get replies..

It's not wrong but if the other person is just not interested then you should stop worrying about it yourself so much love.

CW

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Iseulda

Through another website I have known quite a few men for whom this is a fantasy and quite a few who have made it a reality - either once or twice or as a regular part of their sex life with their wives.

It's really rather common, the fantasy anyway.

I am assuming you want to be there and watch - you don't want your wife to go off alone, experience this and come back to you, you want to be a part of it.

To my mind, that's not cheating - because you are doing it together and she clearly has your support and consent. Perhaps what she is more worried about (either consciously or subconsciously) is emotional infidelity. Perhaps she is concerned that through intimate acts she might become emotionally attached to another man. Maybe that's why she's more interested in playing with a woman, she doesn't feel she could become emotionally attached.

I think CW is right - I think you need to listen to your wife's concerns and understand that she's not comfortable with the idea of being intimate with someone else. You are OK with the idea of her taking physical pleasure from another person, but would you be OK if your wife developed a little crush on that person? Or fell in love? I think that is what she is scared of.

I might be wrong of course. Talk to her. And in the meantime continue to play with big toys - indulge in the fantasy. But don't try to talk or coerce her into it - if she's not comfortable with it then you can't do it.

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rebellee47

Thanks for the Replies CW and Isuelda !! As CW has said this is a subject i have been posting about for quite a while. I am not pushy at all . She has shown interest but not when directly addewssing the issue . Ther was a time a while back that I took her for a trip for the weekend . Whne we arrived and i started unpacking she was so aroused looking everywhere I ask her what was going own and she said she thought I had someone in there for her. I told her I could arrange it but would never just throw it on her like that. She was very horny by this time so we made mad ,passionate love . When I offered at first to arrange it she laughed it off as if she was kidding but i think not I believe the thought of it was what had her so aroused. I am a simple man just wanting to please my wife beyond imagination and sometimes you girls are very hard to figure out!! I dont want to push so I go slow BUT I dont want to wait so long I am to old to enjoy it myself,..Lee

Hopeless Dork

A lot of people can become aroused by a fantasy they have no intention of actually doing. Perhaps it turned her on so much because she knew it was fantasy (in her own mind) or because she knew the thought of it turned you on so much.

Talking about it one thing, actions have consequenses and if she loves only you, the big fear would that as much as you want to do this, after its all said and done will you regret it and if so ... what repercussions will she have to face for just going on along with it to please you.

Sounds like your wife is plenty fullfilled with you and all the fantasies.. why push for more? I know there is many happy men that share their wives, etc... but its one of those things that can end well or very badly.

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CHANDLERS WISH

Ahhh people are just going to answer babe to your post, "read Lee's threads/posts then reply to this one...

I think still, she is still with you, she still loves you, she may not see what you see but she may actually really want to try a woman and your missing that.

It's not about you there, it's about she's seeing something based on "this thread" this time nothing more.

CW

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SinisterUrge

Cuckold fantasies are common, but the reality is rarely as good as you think it'd be.

jonnie_rocks

This is really a mixed bag.

I know of men and their wives who have been really open for years and finally experimented with another male and it was fine.

I know of others, who thought they were open to it, but found out another male was just too much for either too handle. There's something about another person, particularly a male being added to the mix that just cannot be defined.

It's different and once it's done, you can't erase it.

rebellee47

Thanks to all for replies. CW may be right I may not be seeing what is actually turning her on here and it is the thought of being with another women. I would be totally lost however trying to find one for her . We have been together for 24 years and I would not even know where to start ...Lee

hello_pitty

I agree that adding another male to the mix would be a bad Idea (for my own personal feelings anyways). Why not dress up as another man? Wear a wig or a costume, it could be fun. Also regarding finding another female to watch with your wife (which I think might be better than another male) Why not let her find a woman for herself? That way she can find one that she likes.

good luck

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