Thread: Do your body insecurities prevent you from having sex?

I've always been overweight and have had serious self esteem issues about my body. Every time I come close to having sex I pull away because the thought of a man seeing me naked makes me uncomfortable.

How do you relax and overcome your insecurities during sex?

Thanks!

Sex is sex and you could use alcohol to over come any tension you feel. Making love to a man and being in that present moment enjoying all 6 senses to love making is a whole other ball game it depends on trust.

You know when it feels right and it doesnt matter if you weigh 100lbs or 200lbs its just total acceptance. You have to love and accept yourself in order for this to happen. No man will make you feel that way about yourself if you don't already feel it for yourself.

You need to look at yourself and love your inner and outself to be comfortable with this.

I take care of my body I mosturize that means I must rub Oils or lotions over my body and I love the extra parts ofme as well My body is far from perfect I'm no airbrush of perfection... I have some stretch marks, some cellulite, scars, and a few lil love handles I believe I am very sexy because I accept my body.

When I'm making love to my bf I'm connected to him and its about making his body feel good. This is right from rubbing his back and getting in deep to his tension and releasing that and then working my way around his body to arouse and excite his other senses. Makinglove is a great exchange of positive energy and release to one another.

Did you pull away cause you didn't feel that deeply about the man? You didn't want to share your body to that level with him?

You may never be a size 2 but that doesn't mean you can't be sexy. If you are taking care of your body by drinking water, eating a balanced diet and getting some physical activity that will shine thru.

Body Image is so outta wack these days for women... All you can be is the most healthy you and that is what you should focus on. You may drop some weight along the way and feel even better about yourself.

A man's perspective...

When I was young, immature and heavily impacted by (artificial) media of all types, I thought the only women I'll ever be intimate with are those that remind me of _____ (models in magazines, actresses on tv, etc.).

I used to think that the only sexy women were "skinny" women.

Now that I've matured and shared intimacy with several types of women, the ones that I remember as being the sexiest, hottest and most desirable to me are the ones that are most comfortable with themselves.

Confidence is sexy. Because EVERYONE has something they'd like to alter, change or improve with their own bodies.

You are no different than anyone else.

So get after it! Don't hold back or be afraid. Intimacy is amazing and you should experience the feeling of it just like everyone else.

I can relate too, because why I consider myself to be in pretty good physical shape, I also believe that I am too hairy, legs are too skinny, have no butt to speak of, chest is concave (due to illness as a toddler), etc.

Take care.

Set the mood that makes you feel more comfortable... Light a couple candles, turn the lights down, then be confident. You'll find that most men are more attracted to an average looking confident girl. Confidence=sexy....

I was with a woman when I was in college with this issue. She never got naked when the sun was up. She absolutely hated the way she looked despite me complimenting her non-stop.

My roommates at the time called her Sunshine. That darn star cockblocked me many times because she wasnt allowed to stay the night.