Vaginal pains-- Please help!

**MrPleazr** · 07-08-2009 07:47 PM

I tend to be kinda blunt, but if he HATES the idea of lube, tell him to try masturbating dry while wearing a rubber glove....

I remember being young and young men tend to be a little focused on themselves when it comes to sex. You need to explain to him that your not getting much out of it, not blow his ego, but make sure he knows that you need a little more. Make sure he knows how much pain your in right now. Tell he's got to get you off before he gets off, make it fun, it's not a race....

**vagreer10** · 07-08-2009 07:55 PM

Yeah, he's a great guy, but i he doesn't do as much for me as i do for him. He knows how much i'm hurting right now, and he feels terrible because he feels like it's his fault. so i'm thinking he'll use lube after all of this. plus it'd probably feel really good for him too, wouldn't it?

**MrPleazr** · 07-08-2009 08:04 PM

Tell him it is his fault, LOL, and next time he has to make it up to you...ORALLY!!!!

Does it take him a long to cum, or is he pretty quick to blow his top? If he's pretty quick, like I suspect, he'll enjoy the lube. But either way, whether he has more fun or not, it's not worth the pain it causes you...

I'm telling you, the warming gel from KY is the bomb....Just trust me on this one, try it...

**Possibilities** · 07-08-2009 08:09 PM

Hey, just a thought, but if you were dry and he entered you anyways your inner labia can be pushed inside by the penis, then everytime he thrusts the inner labia get pulled around with the penis which really irritates them and can cause tons of swelling and redness, it goes away after a few days with no sex.

PS you can go to the doctor without telling your parents, if you can't get into planned parenthood, just go to a walk-in clinic. The internet is definitely not the place to diagnose things, you have to see a doctor.

**vagreer10** · 07-08-2009 08:10 PM

haha oh he'll definitely be making it up to me
and it doesn't take long if we use a condom, but without he can go for a while.
and i'll deff try it :]
thanks so much for the answers everyone

**MrPleazr** · 07-08-2009 08:22 PM

Keep using the condoms, but try it with lube, he'll last longer that way... If he does his job before it gets to that point, you'll get your too....

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-08-2009 08:35 PM

You mention your on Prozac? Medication can also effect the flow of wetness for you.

Apart from burning sensation now that it's been a few days, is there any swelling or itchiness as well?

CW

**vagreer10** · 07-09-2009 07:53 AM

Originally Posted by Possibilities

Hey, just a thought, but if you were dry and he entered you anyways your inner labia can be pushed inside by the penis, then everytime he thrusts the inner labia get pulled around with the penis which really irritates them and can cause tons of swelling and redness, it goes away after a few days with no sex.

PS you can go to the doctor without telling your parents, if you can't get into planned parenthood, just go to a walk-in clinic. The internet is definitely not the place to diagnose things, you have to see a doctor.

Yeah that sounds EXACTLY like what happened. And i plan on going to PP tomorrow. It feels a lot better already, but i still want reassurance. as you said, the internet isn't a place to diagnose.

**vagreer10** · 07-09-2009 07:54 AM

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

You mention your on Prozac? Medication can also effect the flow of wetness for you.

Apart from burning sensation now that it's been a few days, is there any swelling or itchiness as well?

CW

there isn't swelling that i know of, but a little itchiness, which is usually a sign of a wound healing, isn't it?

**Little_Man_in_the_Boat** · 07-09-2009 10:08 AM

Originally Posted by vagreer10

there isn't swelling that i know of, but a little itchiness, which is usually a sign of a wound healing, isn't it?

Yes it probably is not sure though.

SSRI's (Prozac) cause negative sexual side affects, that probably impede your natural ability to have an orgasm.

From what I have read about you and your partner it sounds like 1. the prozac could be causing your vaginal dryness, and 2. your partners poor sexual technique wouldn't be good either.

So if its possible stop taking prozac I would do it, still I'm not qualified to make that decision for you so you should reconsult your doctor or nutritionist and ask for advice.

Foreplay is so important to a womens ability to achieve orgasm.

Foreplay is kindness, gentleness, thougtfulness, and real love.

The art of making love.

Cuddling, Kissing, Caressing, is an art I guess it takes time to master.

I think a female must take the initiative and not allow a guy to have her straight away before she is ready ....

ing is nasty, cruel, insensitive, selfish, dumb, ignorant and stupid.

Making love is the complete opposite.

So foreplay is so important to get you wet, once you are wet you are at the very least ready to accept a penis.

Still ideally one should continue on until you are more than wet in the vagina and vulva.

True orgasm comes from a lot of foreplay in fact maybe even hours of foreplay.

So do spend a lot of time kissing gentley, cuddling, hand caressing you have to be very gentle at this, its caressing not rubbing there is a difference.

Try to explain this to your partner.

Sex for a guy should not be a race to ejaculate.

Take your time, get some books and read.

I hope this helps.

LMITB.