Masturbation issues

purplekate · 07-06-2009, 11:29 PM

Ok so I am 19 and have not had sex. I have just recently been exploring masturbation. I can get wet, but when insert finger, doesnt really do anything for me. I think a vibrator would be the solution, but embaressed to go buy one. Any suggestions?

**caterpillar79** · 07-07-2009, 07:48 AM

You can go buy online. They pack it discreetly so you should not be embarrassed. Also, include a lubricant when you get your toy.

**Joy** · 07-07-2009, 09:32 AM

get over it and go buy one.... you can do it. Look them up online to see what you might like then go purchase one. Empower yourself and get past the fear and embarassment. Help set yourself sexually free and give up these inhibitions now. Let us know if it was a liberating experience.

**WildChild** · 07-07-2009, 10:13 AM

There are very few nerve endings in the vagina. If there were childbirth would be unbearable and menstration could be a really interesting sensation. But women are blessed with delightful little button packed with nerves. The clitorus. Make it your friend. The head of man's penis has about 4000 nerve endings, but our clits have them out done by double that. You've got 8000 nerve ending packed in there. That is were most of it's happening. The G spot and such are essentially like the root of the clit and can produce some amazing results but the clit is where you should start.

You do need some lube, whether it's your own or out of a tube, fantasize, explore. A vibrator can help you get there faster and really get a feel for what an orgasm feels like, but over use can reduce your sensitivity to touch so use it as a starting point and then learn to use your hands.

**SinisterUrge** · 07-07-2009, 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by purplekate

I think a vibrator would be the solution, but embaressed to go buy one. Any suggestions?

Just remember that vibrators are for clits and dildos are for inserting. While you wouldn't be the first woman to go to the ER to have a vibrating bullet removed when the cord broke, its still not something I imagine you'd look forward to.

OhThereYouAre · 07-08-2009, 07:30 AM

And take it easy with the thing. You can get used to it quickly so that it will be the only thing that will trigger an orgasm.

My current G/F couldn't have an orgasm during sex because she was so used to her vibrator.

We were both frustrated, so she finally got rid of it. She can have an orgasm when she's on top, but oral is still not enough for her.

OhThereYouAre · 07-08-2009, 07:32 AM

Let me rephrase: My currently G/F couldn't have an orgasm *period* with me because she was so used to her vibrator.

**Swiftus** · 07-08-2009, 08:14 AM

Few women are stimulated internally, it seems.

Watch some female masturbation porn and you will see most of them rubbing their clit, mainly.

sarahmay · 07-09-2009, 05:12 AM

I started masturbating, using only my clit. I tried insertion a few times (just with fingers) and felt nothing. I didn't understand how the women can orgasm from it lol. So I stuck to clit stimulation til I lost my virginity to my boyfriend. A penis feels alot different (and much better) than fingers, I can tell you that lol.

I believe most women masturbate mainly with clitoris stimulation anyway. Much more sensitive and brings an orgasm round much easier. But yeah, I agree with getting yourself a toy and giving insertion a go again. It gets better the more you do it, and clit stimulation at the same time really helps.

07-06-2009, 11:29 PM	#1
purplekate Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 4	Masturbation issues Ok so I am 19 and have not had sex. I have just recently been exploring masturbation. I can get wet, but when insert finger, doesnt really do anything for me. I think a vibrator would be the solution, but embaressed to go buy one. Any suggestions?

07-07-2009, 07:48 AM	#2
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07-09-2009, 05:12 AM	#9
sarahmay Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 18	I started masturbating, using only my clit. I tried insertion a few times (just with fingers) and felt nothing. I didn't understand how the women can orgasm from it lol. So I stuck to clit stimulation til I lost my virginity to my boyfriend. A penis feels alot different (and much better) than fingers, I can tell you that lol. I believe most women masturbate mainly with clitoris stimulation anyway. Much more sensitive and brings an orgasm round much easier. But yeah, I agree with getting yourself a toy and giving insertion a go again. It gets better the more you do it, and clit stimulation at the same time really helps. __________________ Love the life you've been given; it's the only one you'll ever get.

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07-07-2009, 09:32 AM	#3
Joy Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 678 Blog Entries: 5	get over it and go buy one.... you can do it. Look them up online to see what you might like then go purchase one. Empower yourself and get past the fear and embarassment. Help set yourself sexually free and give up these inhibitions now. Let us know if it was a liberating experience.

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WildChild WH Moderator Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 8,662 Blog Entries: 6	There are very few nerve endings in the vagina. If there were childbirth would be unbearable and menstration could be a really interesting sensation. But women are blessed with delightful little button packed with nerves. The clitorus. Make it your friend. The head of man's penis has about 4000 nerve endings, but our clits have them out done by double that. You've got 8000 nerve ending packed in there. That is were most of it's happening. The G spot and such are essentially like the root of the clit and can produce some amazing results but the clit is where you should start. You do need some lube, whether it's your own or out of a tube, fantasize, explore. A vibrator can help you get there faster and really get a feel for what an orgasm feels like, but over use can reduce your sensitivity to touch so use it as a starting point and then learn to use your hands.

07-08-2009, 07:30 AM	#6
OhThereYouAre Banned from WH Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1,503	And take it easy with the thing. You can get used to it quickly so that it will be the only thing that will trigger an orgasm. My current G/F couldn't have an orgasm during sex because she was so used to her vibrator. We were both frustrated, so she finally got rid of it. She can have an orgasm when she's on top, but oral is still not enough for her.

07-08-2009, 07:32 AM	#7
OhThereYouAre Banned from WH Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1,503	Let me rephrase: My currently G/F couldn't have an orgasm period with me because she was so used to her vibrator.

07-08-2009, 08:14 AM	#8
Swiftus Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 131	Few women are stimulated internally, it seems. Watch some female masturbation porn and you will see most of them rubbing their clit, mainly.