hi Iam a 21 year old university student, and I recently had sex for the first time with my boyfriend a few months ago.
Now I was really nervous, and because I was nervous I was very tight, thereofore it was difficult for him to enter. At the same time I was nervous cause I Was scared of the pain and the blood. I couldn't relax I was shaking and finally when he broke me it was the worst pain I ever felt and I didn't want to continue. I actually was bleeding alot. My question is, my boyfriend now wants to try again but Im scared I don't want to feel that pain again. Will it be easier the second time around? Will it be easier for him to enter, because I don't think I want to go through that again with him trying for so long to actually get in me, Im not exagerating at all, it was trully a long time. When he finally "got in" it was the worst pain I ever felt because he broke my hymen.
Also after I got my period I had a scare because I didn't get my period but I have irregular periods so my doctor did tests, and I wasn't pregnant but she found out that I produce more of one hormone and this hormone stops my period from being regular. So, now its almost jan and Ive missed Nov, and Dec's periods...therefore should I wait untill I get my period to have sex?

Take a deep breath.
RElax.

The first time, unless the man is very small
and very slow, and very experienced, it will
hurt because you are tearing a piece of flesh.

Now what you should do is have the gynie
cut the hymen. No biggie. Trust me on this one.

Now, as to sex.
You have got to be excited.
You have got to be well lubricated.
This means a lot of foreplay so that you let
go some juices.

There's a jelly you can use if you don't feel
you can get excited enough.

If you are very relaxed, even if your boyfriend
is quite lavish in that department, it will slide in,
because the purpose of the vagina is to open
so that a penis can come in, and also, a baby
can come out. So it stretches.
But it only stretches if you are relaxed.
So you have to be relaxed.

Whatever it takes to be in that sleepy sensual
mood, that's what it takes.

Once you are relaxed and he does some foreplay,
and you are lubricated, it will slide in just fine,
and then you can go for movement, and what
feels good and what doesn't.

But.
R E L A X

I pretty much agree with Kaylar. But I just want you to know that the degree of pain varies from woman to woman and based on the size of his penis. Not to mention if you are throughly excited or not. Even if you are excited and ready, it will most likely be painful. Not only is the hymen being torn, but the bones and tisue are being spread out.

For some women, it only hurts the first time. For other's, it may hurt for the next 3 or 4 times they try. Do not get discouraged though. Just take your time. If the pain is too much, stop and try again another time when you are more calm. There is no need to rush it and he should understand.

It will be worth it to keep trying. Trust me on that! It gets better.

Also, have sex whenever you want. Sex can some times trigger your period to start. It shouldn't be the cause of no period though.

You could be pregnant too. Some times preg tests can be false.

Hi, I know this is an old thread-but I am the same way-I've been married for a year now and now love making-because of the same fear-it hurts when we try and I DO NOT want to go any further-but I see that you said to get the gyno to cut the hymen-I've been looking in to this..does it make it WAY easier?! did you get this done?! Please any info would be greatly appreciated-I want to make love to my husband so bad but it just HURTS! thank you!