Thread: Honestly girls...are you bi-curious?

Interesting thread. My wife came to me about a year ago and asked for my permission to have sex with a woman. I thought I was caught b/w a rock and a hard place: Deny her request and her resent me or allow her to proceed and feel like she was cheating on me. So we talked and talked and talked and what I learned is she is bi. She sometimes enjoys the feel of woman but at the end of the day prefers being with me. Thank goodness for that last part!

I told her what I thought (her resenting me or me feeling cheated) and she came up w/ a compromise: Why don't we both have sex with another woman together? Great idea, hard to execute. We found out very quickly that single attractive women interested in 3 somes are very rare, very highly in demand, and as hard to find as unicorns. We have finally found another couple w/ a bi female and we sometimes play with them and we are always searching for other couples. Actually, it's been great for both of us, but we are probably a rare couple.

We have found in our search for bi females that there are a lot of bi curious and bi women out there and a good number are happily married to a guy.

Ive had relationships with men and women. Like most people have, i went through a phase of confusion regarding my sexuality and, after a particularly nasty experience with one man, i started calling myself a lesbian and had a long-term relationship with a close female friend of mine..

I've always been attracted to women -in a sense... The female body is so much more interesting and sensual and there was a time, especially through my teens, where my looks were a real issue for me. I started paying more attention to other women's appearances and i think it was more a desire to look like them/be them than anything else, looking back. I went through the same phase again recently and had similar feelings but after relationships with women, i don't think i could go back there.

When my friend and i were an item... it was nice, i genuinely don't have a bad word to say about that entire experience, but i don't think it was for me. I do get sexually aroused by women's bodies to this day but it's just not me. In lesbian relationships, for me, there is too much emotion. It gets a bit much and arguments -due to the fact it's between two females- it can turn into violence and it does, quite often. Lesbian friends of mine all say the same thing, just cos men get a real bad rap for hitting a woman (understandibly), yet no-one really says anything about women hitting women. It's not such an issue (unless you live in Northern England like i do!).

Our relationship was great, but i think it was more to do with us being best friends beforehand rather than anything else.
The sex was definitely interesting... It was much more gentle and loving than with a man, nothing was exaggerated and there was more attention being paid to physical pleasure, rather than anything.... pornographic? It was a very pleasurable experience and i'd never regret it but it's not for everyone.

Luckily this amazing lady and i have remained close friends after everything, though now we are both with men!

I am bi and have been all my life. I'm middle-aged now but have fantasised about sex with somen since I began masturbating (a looong time ago). Emotionally I'm totally hetero and looove sex with guys and the idea of a relationship with a woman holds no appeal whatsoever - but sex with women? Love it, love it, love it.

I didn't explore this aspect of myself until 10 years ago and was encouraged by my boyfriend - not for his own voyeuristic indulgence but because he wants me to be true to myself. Ok, in the process he's been able to participate at times as well, but that's not his motivation for his support - it's just a bonus.

You won't know the extent of your 'interest' until you test it. You may find it's not what may imagine it's like, or you may find you're happy to receive but not give, or that you really can't go thru with it when the time comes - or you may open a whole new world for yourelf.

You don't say if you're single, but it comes across that you are so look around on the net for someone in a similar situation (I found a fabulous 'girlfriend' this way - we go to movies, dinner, talk about life and kids and men - and have a great time in bed). If you have a man in your life then it's a bit more complicated.

As the saying goes 'you'll never never know if you never have a go'.

Originally Posted by LilahX

I am bi and have been all my life. I'm middle-aged now but have fantasised about sex with somen since I began masturbating (a looong time ago). Emotionally I'm totally hetero and looove sex with guys and the idea of a relationship with a woman holds no appeal whatsoever - but sex with women? Love it, love it, love it.

I didn't explore this aspect of myself until 10 years ago and was encouraged by my boyfriend - not for his own voyeuristic indulgence but because he wants me to be true to myself. Ok, in the process he's been able to participate at times as well, but that's not his motivation for his support - it's just a bonus.

You won't know the extent of your 'interest' until you test it. You may find it's not what may imagine it's like, or you may find you're happy to receive but not give, or that you really can't go thru with it when the time comes - or you may open a whole new world for yourelf.

You don't say if you're single, but it comes across that you are so look around on the net for someone in a similar situation (I found a fabulous 'girlfriend' this way - we go to movies, dinner, talk about life and kids and men - and have a great time in bed). If you have a man in your life then it's a bit more complicated.

As the saying goes 'you'll never never know if you never have a go'.

I too am middle aged and have been bisexual all my life. I've not had that many experiences with women and have been celibate for almost 10 years (I know, that's sad). However, I masturbate frequently and often fantasize about women or watch lesbian porn. I am much more attracted to feminine women and not the butch look - that is unappealing to me.

Don't get me wrong, I have been married twice and loved the sex - though the first one was a bit apprehensive and the second was up for anything. We experimented with threesomes and swapping and to be honest, that was when our relationship went downhill because he allowed himself to become emotionally involved with the other man's wife. They carried on behind her husband's and my back for over a year and though we knew about it, they continuously denied anything was happening. The daily phone calls between them were all the evidence I needed.

Nonetheless, I love sex with a woman and think the female body is one of the most beautiful images, particularly when the proportions are evenly distributed. There is nothing wrong with exploring your bisexuality and if it is not for you, at least you have satisfied the curiosity. I have a daughter who is in a lesbian relationship and has been in heterosexual relationships prior, but she once told me that she doesn't base her relationships on gender. I take that as a very healthy attitude and am proud that she is courageous enough to "come out" and find what she desires. I, on the other hand, have not been able to be forthcoming yet and don't know if I ever will. In the meantime, I continue to fantasize and am perfectly content with my self-love as I have become more sensually aware of my needs.

Call it selfish if you will, but I believe if more people were "in tune" with their own sexuality before experiencing it with others, a lot more people would be satisfied. JMO