Thread: Hey guys - what turns you on

here's an idea - masturbate in front of him and don't hold back. do it RIGHT in front of him and make him watch you come.

that'll get the wheels turning.

Sounds like fun and I will give it a try. I usually masturbate in the middle of the night when everybody is sleeping. The kids are gone tonite so it will be a great opportunity for me to do it.

Theresa I admire your perserverance when it seems he's not giving much effort. Sounds like he's bored as well just not willing to do anything about it. Perhaps he's content with "okay" sex but I'm glad to hear that you're not. I like the masturbation idea.....unless he's turned off by masturbation, or unless he's dead.....he'd HAVE to get turned on by that. I think most any guy would love that.

The most important thing here is to communicate. Don't wait until you get to the point of frustration and resentment before you approach it. Try a few things...if they don't yield the results you want, have a cool and calm chat with him about it.

GOOD LUCK!!

Theresa I deffinitly know what you mean about a guy receiving more than giving in foreplay.. Thats the thing with most guys now adays.. They're just so self concerned when it comes to sex, as if they're the only one who needs the pleasure.

Me being a guy.. and where I'm from, I can honestly tell you that I'm surrounded buy alot off guys that will just go out looking for a BJ or a quick bang in a dark ally.. I'm a bit different as I LOVE, and I do mean love, playing with my girlfriend. I love her body and I love to make her feel loved, so I'm always playing with her, I guess I'm just an easy guy when it comes to sex.. Though I know I'm pretty easy..

Though if your in a relationship, and your not getting anything, then yea you do need to sit and have a little chat with him.. Which is what I had to do with my girlfriend. If your pleasuring him all the time and hes doing nothing, your eventully going to get fed up.. Save it now before its to late! lol

As for your question about what turns a guy on, well yes as most others said it just depends on what the guy likes, we cant really tell you.. Its hard to find out what turns your man on if he doesnt tell you! You need to get inside his head, or do things you havent done before, and see his reaction.

Try giving him a BJ but combining a hand job with it too.. BJ's now adays are just known as sucking him off.. up and down up and down.. Which in my eyes is pretty boring.. BE CREATIVE! Suck him off a bit then rub him for a while, try and combine the two if he is large enough.

Recently my girlfriend found a new G-Spot on my penis, which is located on my helmet, which if she rubs it, it feels amazing and really gets me feeling like im going to explode.

Maybe try some new things, like buying lube, putting it on him and then rubbing him, cause I can tell you getting rubbed dry can be.. sore sometimes.. But if you have some lube, use a bit off that and I can assure it will feel alot better.
You never know, get a flavoured lube, but some on you and ask him to go down on you, he might love it.. Lemme tell you, it certainly makes it alot better

Sorry if this wasnt a big help but, this is just some advice from mine.. a guys perspective..
But really, if your getting nothing from him, do something about it now before you get fed up..
Maybe you should try starving him.. If he wants sex.. just be sarcasdic and say, "No honey, I'm not in the mood right now, maybe another time" Then when he asks again, just keep saying no until hes on his knees begging.. Then.. ATTACK!

Have fun

Theresa, find ways to 1) surprise and 2) magnify the anticipation/build-up. If you can combine them, whoa!

I stress these two approaches because it isn't a particular act, position or event per-se. Be creative and spontaneous... encourage the same from your man.

Originally Posted by OhThereYouAre

here's an idea - masturbate in front of him and don't hold back. do it RIGHT in front of him and make him watch you come.

that'll get the wheels turning.

Well that worked great and was quite enjoyable for me to. Watching him watch me was exciting. I think that will become one of my tricks. It yielded very good results. (hehe)

Originally Posted by Theresa

Well that worked great and was quite enjoyable for me to. Watching him watch me was exciting. I think that will become one of my tricks. It yielded very good results. (hehe)

Awesome...that is really good to hear!!

Best of luck to you guys.