does normal sexual life need everytime orgasm??

**needanswer99** · 07-28-2009 10:06 AM

I m married woman with very happy sexual life.

I know how to get orgasm. My husband is very fine on that.

BUT SOMETIMES I do not get orgasm and it is ok for me and I allow my husband to finish his desire with me at that time but ..

My husband feels very bad at that time because he wants whenever we do sex , I should get orgasm.

He says it is not normal.

1) can u explain me that is it normal that a woman does not want orgasm everytime......??

2) with same sex actions of husband (stimulation of breast,clitoris and g spot) , she sometimes could get orgasm and sometimes not............????

help me out

**Chantalemma** · 07-28-2009 10:39 AM

I have to say I don't always orgasm. I love to have sex with my bf but I don't always have an orgasm. Actually 1 out of 5 times I will. He doesn't know this. He never actually asked me about it. But it is ok, because I enjoy seeing him have pleasure without me cuming. I enjoy intercourse anyways... I would say it is normal, because a lot of woman don't always orgasm.

**OhThereYouAre** · 07-28-2009 01:44 PM

Sure that's normal. But it's also normal for him to think that he isn't satisfying you if you don't have an orgasm yourself. Just assure him that you are satisfied orgasm or not.

Sometimes I wonder if women enjoy sex more for the emotional attachment or the physical component.

**Mrs Doodles** · 07-28-2009 01:56 PM

I dont always cum when i have sex with my husband and it doesnt bother me sometimes i am more than happy just for him to cum sometimes we do certain positions that only he cums in and vice versa i still have really good sex with him even if i dont cum.

**nightqueen** · 07-28-2009 04:59 PM

I need to orgasm about 99% of the time to feel satisfied. Once in a while we have a quickie, but usually I'm not satisfied after that. My DH knows exactly what to do, so it's not hard for me to cum.

**LanaBear** · 07-28-2009 06:06 PM

I'm married and we've been together for 14 years. I'm very satisfied with my sex life and certainly don't orgasm everytime. Most times, yes, everytime no. I think it's completely normal. Certain orgasms are stronger than other, like g-spot vs clitoral, but I'm always satsified. Watching my DH orgasm keeps me nearly as satisfied. It works vice versa too with us though. There are times in which he doesn't orgasm but I will, well, let me rephrase that, he may orgasm but not cum. When that happens, it doesn't bother me in the least. I guess, maybe too, to me or us, orgasms and cumming are two different things. It's taken us both a long time to get to this point, but it's what's kept it interesting.

**Theresa** · 07-29-2009 03:30 PM

Originally Posted by nightqueen

I need to orgasm about 99% of the time to feel satisfied. Once in a while we have a quickie, but usually I'm not satisfied after that. My DH knows exactly what to do, so it's not hard for me to cum.

You are lucky, in my eyes, to have a DH that knows what to do. My DH does not know or chooses not to satisfy me. Orgasms are a great feeling so I have them whenever I have a chance.

**nightqueen** · 07-29-2009 06:32 PM

Originally Posted by Theresa

You are lucky, in my eyes, to have a DH that knows what to do. My DH does not know or chooses not to satisfy me. Orgasms are a great feeling so I have them whenever I have a chance.

Sorry to hear that. I never understand situations where the husband/wife does not want to please their spouse. I don't get it. It just does not seem fair to me.

**ItsASecret** · 07-29-2009 10:24 PM

I've only had one orgasm with my boyfriend. I do wish I could orgasm each time because I'm sure he would feel great about being able to do that to me. However I do not dwell on the what if's and why not's since all that will do is stress me out even more. If I am to finish again then great, I will be extremely satisfied but I am not looking to try everytime we do have sex.

As for him, I do prefer that he finishes each time because I love the feeling of him cumming inside of me.

**BettyBoop** · 07-30-2009 05:59 AM

Yes its perfectly normal not to have an orgasm.

In fact its very rare that any women will have an orgasm in their life time.

Thats because of the lifestyle that we live.

Thousands of years ago we had a laid back easy lifestyle now its controlled by clocks.

Now its just work, work, work.

We are so tired and exhausted that there is no time for orgasm.

So why feel disillusioned ?