Thread: need an orgasm..help

this is the thing...
me& my bf have been having sex 4 almost 2 yrs& in my last thread I said that we where eachothers 1st... now sex wit him is pretty gd the only thing is dat he cums tooo fast 4 me... he's uncercumsized... does that have nething 2 do w/ it? I also masterbate regularly, does that have ne thing 2 do w/it?
during sex I've never had an orgasm& its really starting 2 irratate me cuz its not dare that he can get off but not me.. I love him 2 death& love the sex but wuld love 2 orgasm 2 love it more...I've tryd the whole rubbin da clit while in doggy[favorite] I was almost there but once again he came 2 fast..
ughh this is so frustrating plz sum1 give me tips on wat he or I can do or mayb even both of us....
greatly appriciated...

Originally Posted by BETHANIE

this is the thing...
me& my bf have been having sex 4 almost 2 yrs& in my last thread I said that we where eachothers 1st... now sex wit him is pretty gd the only thing is dat he cums tooo fast 4 me... he's uncercumsized... does that have nething 2 do w/ it? I also masterbate regularly, does that have ne thing 2 do w/it?
during sex I've never had an orgasm& its really starting 2 irratate me cuz its not dare that he can get off but not me.. I love him 2 death& love the sex but wuld love 2 orgasm 2 love it more...I've tryd the whole rubbin da clit while in doggy[favorite] I was almost there but once again he came 2 fast..
ughh this is so frustrating plz sum1 give me tips on wat he or I can do or mayb even both of us....
greatly appriciated...

You're really quick to put the blame on your guy...have you communicated this with him? What are his thoughts?

It's not fair that he's too quick? Maybe he thinks its not fair you take too long? Not saying that's the case, just opening up dialogue.

Maybe if you tone down the masturbation you'll go quicker. Maybe if he rubs one out earlier in the day he'll last longer. Catch my drift?

Im not blamin him 4 it.. He cums in like 3 or 5 minutes if so [dnt look at time just feels like it]...its too soon 4 me i usualy masterbate mayb like 2 times a week but that's about it.. Ne other sugestions?

Like I said....tone down the masturbation...or tell him to rub one out earlier in the day before sex. Those two methods would most probably be the best and easiest way to solve your woes. You signalled you don't want to try either of these ideas.

If you aren't willing to work at it, you're gonna be frustrated for the rest of your relationship most probably.

More ideas:

Maybe incorporate more foreplay before the main event.....oral?

You're really going to have to experiment with different stuff. Think about how long it takes you to finish when you masturbate? You know your body better than I do...you know what it takes for you to get off....improvise a little. If more time is what you need, you need to tell him to lay off until you're heated up a bit.

You could also try some desensitizing cream for him. If he's into you, he'll work with you.

Good luck.

THANKS 4 YUR ADVISE ILL EASE OFF THE MASTERBATION& C WHERE THAT LEADS& THE ORAL THING IT WORKS 4 HIM BUT NOT 4 ME HE'S NOT THAT GD THERE& ALSO ILL TRY THE CREAM... WAT DOES THE CREAM DO?

also has ne1 ever used the k& y 4 her.. if so does it work?

From a male perspective get the little bugger really horny and go for leather and get him to pull out, the minute a male orgasms inside a women he losses all sexual desire. Get him horny get him to pull out and then get him to go back in and go for leather. It might take a little but I promise you doing this if he is keen will not but make last a little longer but alot. If you can get him on board just tell him you want to experiment your encounters could easily go 2Hrs+

KY is weird it works but it feels different and ends up being real sticky when it starts to dry out

When I ride my husband I have control of the situation so I can cum. Otherwise I have a hard time reaching orgasm. Just a thought.

Spend a lot more time on foreplay, penetration is the last thing you do.

After say a few hours, when your both saturated in sweat and you can feel your orgasm coming allow him to enter you, and not before, I can't do it any other way.

Its on him but tell him to wait, even if he is close to blue balls.

Your partner has to wait for you, not the other way around.