Oral Sex Advice Deep Throat help Please

**Ahryin** · 07-29-2009, 02:16 PM

Hello Ladies and Gentlemen.....This is the first time I have reached out for advice of this sort. I'm not a shy person but I've been trying and failing in this aspect of sex for soooo long that it's starting to take a toll on my pride. I have been seriously seeing someone for a little over a year now he is a good size but not massive. I'm not a novice but not an expert. I have tried several tricks such as using my hands as assitants while servicing him ( I like the word service so much more than giving head or sucking d**k) I've tried using a bullet on his scrotum while servicing, tried writing words with my tongue etc. My point is the one thing I have not been able to do is deep throat. I haven't been able to service him for that long because my jaw starts to hurt so he gets a good 10-15mins from me tops. I would really like to be able to deep throat but watching porn does NOT help. I've looked for advice online but have not received much at least nothing in detail that could actually help me. Everyone says relax but how????? I enjoy servicing him but I can't freaking make him release that way and even though he says its not me (no one has been able to do it) it means a lot to me and I really want to do it...so practice isn't making perfect here ladies and gentlemen...HELP!!! So not only am I looking for deep throat advice (even though thats what I really want) but any oral advice (just incase) I don't want to leave any stone unturned.....

**WildChild** · 07-29-2009, 02:21 PM

Very few women can do this and why would you really want to? It would be kind of like learning to a sword swallower. Get the boor, Going Down, it has lots of good info.Some just don't cum from oral.

BETHANIE · 07-29-2009, 04:30 PM

well I do it 2 my bf goes dwn pretty nice... well instead of just sukin him off also jerk him off so ur jaw doesn't hurt.. this is supposd 2 b enjoyable 4 u& ur partner..
in order 2 let him go deep really u do have 2 relax, relax ur mouth its like yawning ur throwt opens up its really hard 2 explain...but that's the best way I can explain it 2 u.. my bf really enjoys it... also after he cums suk on da tip gently& alil fast not too fast..c if he likes dat...
good luck& dnt hurt urself

**ItsASecret** · 07-29-2009, 05:24 PM

My boyfriend brought this up with me, and to be honest I would like to do it for him just to say that I have. He knows that I wouldn't do it often, but as a different change of pace I would. Problem is, he is quite well endowed....7.5" so it is not the easiest to even practice. He has fun with me trying to get it to work though, so that's all that matters. Personally I find that the hardest part is the gag reflex. Anatomically we are supposed to react in that fashion when there is a pressure sensation at the back of the tongue. Overcoming that takes time, but if you can manage to give oral without pressing your tongue against him then it will significantly help with progress.

**Hopeless Dork** · 07-29-2009, 06:11 PM

I do this for my bf all the time but its never been the move that brings him to orgasm it just doesn't seem to give that direct stimulation that Is in other methods that get him off.

Stroking while sucking seems to be the best move to help them come - but like others said some gus just don't come from oral.

Now to your main question; while your man is deep inside just your mouth - stick your tongue out far and it will draw him in deep enough to make your eyes water.

It can induce vommitting in the way sticking a finger down ur throat can so use common sense in your attempts at pleasing him. Swallowing and deep throating is not for everyone.

I am an oral enthusiast , not an expert by any means and manage to not only do it... But enjoy it as well.

Sometimes it can make your throat very sore and painful to swallow so its not something to try to make a marathon session of for sure.

**Ahryin** · 07-29-2009, 06:43 PM

I like that...enthusiast good one! What about the sore jaw any tips on that one? it seems like no matter how much I "practice" it still gets sore quickly. thanks for the tip about the tongue I will try it

**Ahryin** · 07-29-2009, 06:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ItsASecret

My boyfriend brought this up with me, and to be honest I would like to do it for him just to say that I have. He knows that I wouldn't do it often, but as a different change of pace I would. Problem is, he is quite well endowed....7.5" so it is not the easiest to even practice. He has fun with me trying to get it to work though, so that's all that matters. Personally I find that the hardest part is the gag reflex. Anatomically we are supposed to react in that fashion when there is a pressure sensation at the back of the tongue. Overcoming that takes time, but if you can manage to give oral without pressing your tongue against him then it will significantly help with progress.

He's about an 8 or 9 pretty thick but not to thick...love that man

I find the gagging hard to stop as well and I don't want to just vomitt on him that would not be a good look...lol
I never thought of NOT touching him with my tongue so far I try to touch him a lot with it...lol

**yellowpiXi3** · 07-29-2009, 07:42 PM

Question: What if you have a small mouth opening... then you can't help to not have your tongue touch... right?

itsasecret: can you please elaborate on the tongue facto?

**golden_nemesis** · 07-29-2009, 08:39 PM

My current partner is the only person I have ever managed to deep throat. I find it pretty much effortless these days, but unfortunately I don't have any real advice to offer. I just realized at some point that I wanted to have him all the way in my mouth so bad my gag reflex just didn't respond.

Now, my gag reflex is still perfectly operational if I get too far back when brushing my teeth or otherwise thrusting objects in the back of my throat, so it is really all about the power of the mind and what you want at that exact moment.

Since it is a good idea to breathe, it is hard to deep throat for more than a few seconds, but I do it periodically through a session of sex. I definitely don't use it for a whole session, but use it to add variety to the BJ.

I would say just try to calm your mind, don't let fears of gagging or throwing up consume your mind as you're doing it. And go gradually. Spend a while with his penis gently pushing at the back of your throat before you try actually deep throating him, you may get accustomed to the pressure.

**Ahryin** · 07-29-2009, 09:18 PM

I just find it hard to believe that some men can not come from Oral pleasure and every man I speak to tells me that is crock of bull they tell ladies to make us not feel bad for being unable to do it. So at this point i'm more determined than ever to be the first to make my mate do it......now just have to figure out how?????hmmmmm and the cogs are in motion

07-29-2009, 02:16 PM	#1
Ahryin Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: NY Posts: 889 Blog Entries: 4	Oral Sex Advice Deep Throat help Please Hello Ladies and Gentlemen.....This is the first time I have reached out for advice of this sort. I'm not a shy person but I've been trying and failing in this aspect of sex for soooo long that it's starting to take a toll on my pride. I have been seriously seeing someone for a little over a year now he is a good size but not massive. I'm not a novice but not an expert. I have tried several tricks such as using my hands as assitants while servicing him ( I like the word service so much more than giving head or sucking d**k) I've tried using a bullet on his scrotum while servicing, tried writing words with my tongue etc. My point is the one thing I have not been able to do is deep throat. I haven't been able to service him for that long because my jaw starts to hurt so he gets a good 10-15mins from me tops. I would really like to be able to deep throat but watching porn does NOT help. I've looked for advice online but have not received much at least nothing in detail that could actually help me. Everyone says relax but how????? I enjoy servicing him but I can't freaking make him release that way and even though he says its not me (no one has been able to do it) it means a lot to me and I really want to do it...so practice isn't making perfect here ladies and gentlemen...HELP!!! So not only am I looking for deep throat advice (even though thats what I really want) but any oral advice (just incase) I don't want to leave any stone unturned..... __________________ Everything I'm not makes me Everything I am

07-29-2009, 05:24 PM	#4
ItsASecret Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 606 Blog Entries: 2	My boyfriend brought this up with me, and to be honest I would like to do it for him just to say that I have. He knows that I wouldn't do it often, but as a different change of pace I would. Problem is, he is quite well endowed....7.5" so it is not the easiest to even practice. He has fun with me trying to get it to work though, so that's all that matters. Personally I find that the hardest part is the gag reflex. Anatomically we are supposed to react in that fashion when there is a pressure sensation at the back of the tongue. Overcoming that takes time, but if you can manage to give oral without pressing your tongue against him then it will significantly help with progress. __________________ There are those who believe that dictionaries should not merely reflect the times but also protect English from the mindless assaults of the trendy.

07-29-2009, 06:11 PM	#5
Hopeless Dork Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: United States Posts: 2,183	I do this for my bf all the time but its never been the move that brings him to orgasm it just doesn't seem to give that direct stimulation that Is in other methods that get him off. Stroking while sucking seems to be the best move to help them come - but like others said some gus just don't come from oral. Now to your main question; while your man is deep inside just your mouth - stick your tongue out far and it will draw him in deep enough to make your eyes water. It can induce vommitting in the way sticking a finger down ur throat can so use common sense in your attempts at pleasing him. Swallowing and deep throating is not for everyone. I am an oral enthusiast , not an expert by any means and manage to not only do it... But enjoy it as well. Sometimes it can make your throat very sore and painful to swallow so its not something to try to make a marathon session of for sure. __________________ ------------- Defintion of Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein

07-29-2009, 06:43 PM	#6
Ahryin Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: NY Posts: 889 Blog Entries: 4	I like that...enthusiast good one! What about the sore jaw any tips on that one? it seems like no matter how much I "practice" it still gets sore quickly. thanks for the tip about the tongue I will try it __________________ Everything I'm not makes me Everything I am

07-29-2009, 09:18 PM	#10
Ahryin Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: NY Posts: 889 Blog Entries: 4	I just find it hard to believe that some men can not come from Oral pleasure and every man I speak to tells me that is crock of bull they tell ladies to make us not feel bad for being unable to do it. So at this point i'm more determined than ever to be the first to make my mate do it......now just have to figure out how?????hmmmmm and the cogs are in motion __________________ Everything I'm not makes me Everything I am

07-29-2009, 02:21 PM	#2
WildChild WH Moderator Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 8,662 Blog Entries: 6	Very few women can do this and why would you really want to? It would be kind of like learning to a sword swallower. Get the boor, Going Down, it has lots of good info.Some just don't cum from oral.

07-29-2009, 04:30 PM	#3
BETHANIE Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 10	well I do it 2 my bf goes dwn pretty nice... well instead of just sukin him off also jerk him off so ur jaw doesn't hurt.. this is supposd 2 b enjoyable 4 u& ur partner.. in order 2 let him go deep really u do have 2 relax, relax ur mouth its like yawning ur throwt opens up its really hard 2 explain...but that's the best way I can explain it 2 u.. my bf really enjoys it... also after he cums suk on da tip gently& alil fast not too fast..c if he likes dat... good luck& dnt hurt urself

07-29-2009, 07:42 PM	#8
yellowpiXi3 Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: californication Posts: 331 Blog Entries: 11	Question: What if you have a small mouth opening... then you can't help to not have your tongue touch... right? itsasecret: can you please elaborate on the tongue facto?

07-29-2009, 08:39 PM	#9
golden_nemesis Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 127	My current partner is the only person I have ever managed to deep throat. I find it pretty much effortless these days, but unfortunately I don't have any real advice to offer. I just realized at some point that I wanted to have him all the way in my mouth so bad my gag reflex just didn't respond. Now, my gag reflex is still perfectly operational if I get too far back when brushing my teeth or otherwise thrusting objects in the back of my throat, so it is really all about the power of the mind and what you want at that exact moment. Since it is a good idea to breathe, it is hard to deep throat for more than a few seconds, but I do it periodically through a session of sex. I definitely don't use it for a whole session, but use it to add variety to the BJ. I would say just try to calm your mind, don't let fears of gagging or throwing up consume your mind as you're doing it. And go gradually. Spend a while with his penis gently pushing at the back of your throat before you try actually deep throating him, you may get accustomed to the pressure.

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