Thread: Threesome: Me, my Wife and another Man

Dear husband...

Are you really sure about this...? I know these activities date back to our beginnings, but do you really think doing such is the right thing for your relationship...? So often I hear the phrase "different strokes for different folks" but that does not convince me to have a non-risk situation because I feel there is no such thing as a non-risk situation...

Naturally, the greatest risk is STD, but that is just the tip of the proverbial iceberg. What if your wife finds more pleasure with other guys than she has with you...what happens when two guys are not enough and then she wants three...four...an outright gangbang orgy...?

Is this your fantasy also...? Would you find pleasure in watching your wife doing other guys more...and more...and more...?

Is there an underlying thought in your mind to have more than one woman in your bed after she has had more than one man...an eye for an eye situation...?

My next concern for you both is where and who you seek for partners... It appears you are looking for strangers instead of trusted friends... How can you be sure a stranger is disease free...? What if the stranger is violent...what if he wants more than one affair...what if he has interested friends...what if...what if...what if...? All it takes is one bad apple to ruin your wife's fruit basket for a lifetime, not to mention how your own life will be ruined and I don't mean just sexually so...

If you feel that anyone, including myself, cannot convince you that this is a very foolish endeavor, then at least share your activity fantasy with a trusted friend...

Sandra_does...

I am female and my SO and I are in our 50's. We did this last weekend. He kows the man, I do not know him. I was not prepared mentally for the act. We had talked about it, but not enough. I did it to please my guy. After reading some of the replies, I am getting more comfortable with the idea. Seems that the general thoughts are:

it is a trust issue
the man wants this because he wants his woman to achieve the ultimate in "O's"
The man really is doing this for the womans enjoyment

it is a good read adn it may help you.

Dear Sandra,
I understand your concerns as being a husband makes me have all these concerns too. Have you ever heard the story of Grace Quak who made a porn gangbanging 283 guys with no preservatives and got NO stds, while this destist's daughter who was a virgin, decided to loose her virginity with this guy and, got HIV?
Life is crazy! Anybody can have any disease. It is really a lottery. I have an European background and there are not that many concerns where I came from. We just do things and move on. The simply idea that we could do that with a "friend" and then me or her seing that person again troubles me. So I'd rather be the person in charge, find someone, and then move on. We actually had a couple friend of ours who did that with "friends" and they all ended up divorcing. So I don't think it is a good idea at all doing that with friends. I know my wife and I know how "horny" she is about sex. But we never did anything in 14 years of marriage. I think we do have the intimacy, trust and curiosity in doing something like this.
I do NOT have the interest of, later on, having a threesome with another woman involved. If she ever wants to experience a woman someday, she has the freedom to find one herself and go and I'll watch the kids. But I don't have any wish to have a threesome with another girl.

Thanks for replying and let's keep on exchanging these ideas.

Husband

Originally Posted by queqid

I am female and my SO and I are in our 50's. We did this last weekend. He kows the man, I do not know him. I was not prepared mentally for the act. We had talked about it, but not enough. I did it to please my guy. After reading some of the replies, I am getting more comfortable with the idea. Seems that the general thoughts are:

it is a trust issue
the man wants this because he wants his woman to achieve the ultimate in "O's"
The man really is doing this for the womans enjoyment

it is a good read adn it may help you.

You are right. It is a trust issue. But I don't want to do it if she doesn't feel like. I can wait until she is ready and willing. I don't want her to do it to please me. We have been watching lots of threesome scenes latelly and reading stories. It is just a matter of taking the time to do it. We are both busy right now but I am planning a trip together and get something like this done.
R you gonna do it again?

Husband.

Originally Posted by Husband and Wife

Have you ever heard the story of Grace Quak who made a porn gangbanging 283 guys with no preservatives and got NO stds, while this destist's daughter who was a virgin, decided to loose her virginity with this guy and, got HIV?

1. People in the adult film business are rigorously tested against STI's. So yes, its quite possible to have sex with hundreds of porn stars and never get an infection (But you'll probably suffer from chaffing).

2. In a threesome (foursome, fivesome, twelvesome, etc etc etc) all participants have sex with all participants. If two men are having sex with one woman, but not each other, its a "gang bang". Thats why Grace Quek wasn't having an orgy when she filmed World's Biggest Gang Bang. Multiple women can also gang bang a guy. It only becomes an orgy when "you can't tell how many people are there any more".

3. Grace Quek had 251 sex acts with 70 men. Not 283. (Wikipedia)

4. Lots of people have contracted an STI during their first sexual encounter. Its quite common among boys who haven't "gotten lucky" by 18 or 19 to visit a prostitute... and newbies usually aren't too careful or know what to look-out for (I blame abstinence-only sex education as to why some men just have no idea what a healthy vagina should look like).

Well, I should say thank you for posting on my thread but at the same time I'm confused because you posted on a reply mine to someone else.
Anyway, commenting on your posting;
1 - in an Interview which can be found online, Grace Quak said it was a shot in the dark because not everyone had been tested.

2 - Who is talking about foursome, fivesome, sixsome,orgy?

3 - 251 - 283 ? What is the difference in the contest in which I am expressing my point? Would 251 make it sound any better? In her appearance on the Jerry Spring Show, she actually said it was only 100 guys and that some repeated twice or three times to add up the numbers. The original idea of the movie was 300 guys. But anyway, this is not about Grace Quak ...

Originally Posted by Husband and Wife

2 - Who is talking about foursome, fivesome, sixsome,orgy?

Nobody yet, but once you open the floodgates of group sex, its best to be familiar with the concept because genie's have a habit of not going back into bottles.

251 - 283 ? What is the difference in the contest in which I am expressing my point?

Absolutely none. I just figure people would want to know that it really wasn't some sexual urban legend.. she really did do that.

Originally Posted by Husband and Wife

When I met my wife and started dating her 14 years ago, we were a lot into reading erotic stories. She then handed me a magazine of erotic stories and in it had a picture of a woman with 2 men: one in front of her and one in the back.
We have been married all these years and recently we have been watching lots of internet videos and even got in a chat room – the same room but with 2 different computers so we chatted with each other and with other men.
Now I have really thinking about having a threesome with another man. I know my wife very well and I know she enjoys sex a lot. I don’t want anybody that I know. Just visiting another city with her and selecting someone very carefully. Not one fixed guy, but completely strangers, like going to a restaurant and befriending the waiter, etc.
I am not asking for advice. I am interested in hearing from people who have done something like this.
Husband

Dh and I have thought about it. Sometimes seems exciting, but mostly really scary. Don't think I'm ready for it now, but, you can meet tons of people who might be willing online. Then if you want to meet them ahead of time you can, and see how that goes before committing to anything.

Thinks its a big mistake if you go ahead with a threesome could put your marriage at risk as things may never be the same again