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About LinkBacksok i never said that i was grown bcuz i know that im not....so 4 all of u who are saying that should ask me do i think im grown first..but yea like i said i know im not grown and i am protecting myself...thanx...
ok i never said that i was grown bcuz i know that im not....so 4 all of u who are saying that should ask me do i think im grown first..but yea like i said i know im not grown and i am protecting myself...thanx...
i luv my hub...all i need and all that i want!!!
As for the age issue, I think someone is ready to have sex when they are comfortable with their bodies, know the risk, and are ready to take responsibility for their own actions. There's not a certain age where a girl can and can not have sex. Besides, girls in this generation are starting puberty at a younger age. I started having sex a couple months before I turned 18, and I was completely comfortable with it, my partner, and my sexuality. Although I do think 15 is a very young age, I also think that if they were ready at that age, then it's perfectly fine as long as they are being responsible.
yes..thank u i kno i may be young......but yes i am comfortable and being responsible with wat im doing...`
Hey,
I just had to reply cuz your post is so close to my situation. I'm also sixteen, and in a very similar postion. It always just seems like he comes before I even have a chance. From what I've read though, you need to relax and experiment a little with different positions and probably foreplay. Just relax.
And if you do acheive...Plz share your secret! I'm just as lost here
Let me share my secret with both of you.....Stay young.......Don't play this sexual game of life.........It can be nothing but confusing because you do not enjoy it and are doing it only because you are trying to be one of the in crowd.........A boy will take as much as he can get.........He can say he loves you but it means nothing..........These are words and this is your body that is being used...........*****asm's are for people in love and at this age you are just trying to belong..........Originally Posted by Vixen15
Hey,
I just had to reply cuz your post is so close to my situation. I'm also sixteen, and in a very similar postion. It always just seems like he comes before I even have a chance. From what I've read though, you need to relax and experiment a little with different positions and probably foreplay. Just relax.
And if you do acheive...
Go back to yesterday and be young........Sex for a woman is not all that it is hyped up to be..........It can be a drag.......Like a guy peeing inside you and then you are supposed to moan and say how good it is.......Wait until you are old enough to tell him what you want and know what is really good instead of being used......
Now I am sure I will be flamed, but I will feel better for writing this.....
This is a comment to me that I will not be able to delete but am making it anyway......
I wonder why I dig myself one hole after another......All I have to do is to sit back and shut my mouth and not say a thing but any of these girl's could be my lovely Granddaughter and this is the way I look at life and being young......I cannot live wearing blinders...or without a tongue.....
Last edited by Little; 04-16-2008 at 05:06 PM.
First and Formost to Sexxy(original poster)....with a few comments of my own...
I think that you are taking an adult approach to the situation that your in by protecting yourself...but with that said don't be fooled into thinking that even "protection" is safe....the only way to be completly safe is not doing it...and i know i sound like the "grandmothers" in here right now but hear me out....First off i just turned 19(16 when i lost my virginity)...and i have a beautiful 2 year old little girl, with my fiance... But too answer your question i too experienced the same problem in my earlier encouters as well...and assuming after i do believe you said 4 years...your probably comfortable with him(your B/F) but at the same time can you achieve and orgasm through masterbation? Honestly i think in order to have an orgasm through intercourse you need to know you own "preferences" in the sexual department...if you can or have achieved an orgasm through masterbation then it is possible to do the same during intercouse. Some women like myself need clitoral stimulation during sex to be able to achieve an orgasm....As for the "Critics" of this girl...who are more likely than not 30+....things have changed ALOT...and i mean yes a relationship without sex is possible...but in todays society not probable. And to be brutally honest i'm getting sick of hearing that guys only want one thing simply because they are young, while yes sometimes it may be true it isn't a fact...Some people mature more quickly than others so really if your emotionally and physically ready, take the precautions, and educate yourself on the facts(and responsibilities)....than does it really matter if your 16 or 36 when you decided to start having sex?? And BY NO MEANS am I saying that all sixteen year olds should be having sex!!! And honestly some of the women reactions here & judging her based on "thier days" is probably the reason she didn't go to her mom in the first place....But as parent ours kids our going to make thier own choices, but be giving them acurate information from a younger age will aide in thier decisions being informed decisions....this is just my point of view...and i hope i was helpful hun...and Good Luck!
As the endlessly wise Caroline said, orgasm's are for people in love (which is not to say that you are not! neither she nor i are implying that). But it rings so true for so many women, including myself. The first time I had a sexual experience, I was 17 years old. I can remember everything about that night. I had been with him for over a year, and had known him for 4. I had been holding back since our first date because oh my lord, does that man turn me on. So obviously, this had been something I wanted for aaaageess!!!!!! I am embarrassed to say, and my boyfriend is extremely proud to, that when he touched me, i came in UNDER 30 SECONDS. lord...haha. But that just goes to show you how important it was for us to wait. I chose to, and i have never once regretted my decision. I loved him with every fiber of my being and everything inside me, and it just all came to a head that night.
My point Sexy585 is that you are young. We do not have much backstory on him, your relationship in general or anything like that but what we have is this- You have been having SEX since you were 14! FOURTEEN! I'm not here to judge, but at that young of an age, I can't imagine having such a sexual mindset...Yes, you're in puberty, but at that age you're supposed to be wondering about boys, not having sex with them! It is so good that you are protecting yourself, for that I'm so glad. But as far as orgasms go, honestly, I wouldn't expect you to be having them. They are much easier for men to have- they can compartmentalize things like you wouldn't believe. He does not NEED the kind of sensual, lustful, in the-heat-of-the-moment-with-the-man-you-love type sex to get off from it. He needs a willing hole! No, i'm not saying that's all you are and he may very well worship your little tootsies off! But this is why he gets off so easily during sex...it just doesn't take much for em', god bless their souls.(mine can go for hours or minutes, depending on his mood, so it's not just yours honey!) Women can be much more complex, though.
Take it in baby steps. It seems like you've bitten off a whole lot here getting into such a big responsibility at such a young age. Just have fun with it though, now that you've began, because with the right partner sex can range from being absolutely beautiful and soft and loving to downright animalistic and passionate. Make sure you let him know what YOU need and want. From your saying that he comes very quickly, it's pretty clear you're not telling him that you need just a little more. You may come, you may not. From sex, I never have. Try other fun stuff! Oral? Does he finger you? Have fun, let him know what YOU need and that it's not just about him, and be safe!
Halloo! Im 16 too and having sex (protected, condom and pill!) So I say im not judging you and actually mean it
Ive been having sex with my boyfriend for a while and still hadnt orgasm'd (until today) through clitoral stimulation with me being on top and leant forward
I guess its where we're young and our bodies arent accustomed to having sex! So we'll just have to be patient until we get our first mind blowing G-stop 'gasm, which could take years!
My boyfriend went down on me for the first time since we'd been together a few days ago and that done absoultely nothing for me but practise makes perfect...weyhey! And when he fingers me its uncomfortable because theres too much stimulation.
So when it comes to us having sex and being pleased get ontop and do it for yourself! Forget about him cumming cos thats bound to happen and take the bull by the horns, think about nothing else but your pleasure and take it!
I hope Ive helped even a little bit! People may not want us to be having sex so young but, as i say 'let us make our own mistakes as you did yours' and 'dont judge people by your own standards'
If you feel ready to be having sex (like I do to) then sex it up with this long term boyfriend of yours
Let me know how it goes!
Grace x
And aswell, alot of people are making a point of saying 'Im not judging' but a few quite clearly are!
bollocks to them
Your right, she doesnt have to but she does. The idea of this website is to help people and share stories and advice which...your really not
that was my last reply i swear
Last edited by Little; 04-07-2008 at 03:22 PM.
Quoted for truth.
It's happened a few times around here - these are the people that need your help the most and you continue to alienate them.
Grow up and stop trying to force your morals on other people.
I love that saying "bollocks" my ex-husband's brother used it all the time and made me laugh....
I'm 45. My neice is 13, she has a boyfriend, her first. It was extremely interesting a couple of weeks ago. She is a "wise young lady".
I am separated and was with my ex - for 8 and a half years all together, so she would have been, around 4 years old.
So, at a birthday, i was telling her about my "potential" new partner, just where he lived that type of thing, which is England at this point and time and she opened up and told me about her new boyfriend and a problem she was having with a close girlfriend, who couldn't seem to be nice to her anymore, as a result as she also liked this boy. My niece took a very positive approach, wanting to know how to best deal with her girlfriend and keep the friendship. She didn't "bag" her, or want her "out", she wanted to comfort her and remain friends.
Now, i found that to be so grown up and well i do commend my brother and sister-in-law for their way of bringing their children up but here was a 13 year old this December, discussing "issues" as if she was an 18 year old.
When i look back at when i was her age, i developed at 11, felt curious at 13 and wanted to know what a kiss felt like, so experiemented on wet tiles as i had a shower, now i know why i'm a good kisser....lol.
I often told my parents back then at 16, that it "is" past tense different at my age that it was when you were 16, and i think each generation is proving this more and more so, as i watch my gorgeous niece.
The one thing that i have picked up on this Forum, is that each young adult woman, is not saying " help" i believed in my boyfriend and went there and he left and now i wished i didn't.
That to me would be more concerning.
But each say, i have been with my bf for 1 year, 2, 4 and they know about pregnancy and deceases.
Again, if i reflect i think there was one class about sex?
My mother just said " it hurts so don't do it" and as for menstration, well i had to keel over on the grounds of the school yard, be taken home and a Doctor called then explained to me, before i realised what was going on.
I only agree with one thing pertaining to age, it takes time to know ones body and "rome wasn't built in a day"...
But i think it's natural for the "Mother instinct" to come out here, whether they want it to or not, it's that instinct that is built within, hense they are trying to put themselves in those shoes but as a Mum, keep seeing their daughter or grandaughter, and can't help but speak.
I am not a mum, so consequently, i don't have those reactions as a result as all i can relate it to is when i was 16, 18, and so on and what was going through my mind.
I just say, to any threader read all advice and take what you need from it, as each person is individual and will have their own thoughts, opinions just as the threader does.
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