Thread: orgasms

i am a 16 yr old female and have been having sex for about 1 year and a half now and i still have never had an orgasm...my bf gets them all the time..every time we have sex..and i still havent gotten one..is their something wrong thst im doin? am i ever going 2 have one? ..pleez helpme..i wanna kno how it feels!!

Hi.I am not going to judge you.Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.I started having sex with my now husband when I was 15.I wish you weren't sexually active at this age as I wish I wasn't when I was your age.I do hope you are using protection to protect you against std's and pregnancy.I had my first baby at 17.Now to answer your question,I did not have my first orgasim for awhile after we started having sex.We have been married 8 years and I still very rarely have an orgasim through intercourse.For some women it is hard.The way we had to started doing it was for him to do oral sex on me first.Some people think this is plain gross.To us it is not.When I do get to have an orgasim during intercourse,it is becasue he has to try harder.Meaning he has to keep himself from having an orgasim and he has to last longer because it takes me more than 20 minutes.You have to really be into it.Women don't have orgasims as quick as men.It is easy for them.Ask him to try to last longer.Get into the mood and it will come.I hope this helps.

yea u dont have 2 judge me..but yes im using protection..and we have been going out 4 two years and 6 months now and we have a good relationship...but yea back to the point e does cum quickly and i also think that if he lsted longer than maybe i would have oan orgasm..bcuz sometimes it feels like something is coming but then all of a sudden he cums and it just goes away...thanx 4 the info!!

Hi, i am not an expert by far on this topic as i am 33 years old and have never had an orgasm ever! So i can relate although the problem is not physical it's still frustrating not having one with a special someone so i know how you feel. I think with time, and experience it will happen i think a couple must be totally into one another heart, soul and body and mind for an Orgasm to happen- to just let go and enjoy, don't think about him cumming or anything. Please be safe always to many diseases out there!!

Frustrated

yea i see wat ur sayin and thanx 4 the replies....and yea we do use protection always!!

try 4 play, a women needs to be excited before intercourse to have an orgasm. Him going down on you helps alot, but you have to help him its hard or them to find the clitoris expecially cause your a young couple and a bit inexperienced. Maybe you could try making yourself orgasm first then with him. I suggest putting a little lube on your clitoris, and then yeah.

someone just say what we are all thinking

you should not be having sex at 16, or 17, or 18
i know A LOT of teens do it, but you don't have to
you know the risks, i dont' need to lecture you, but we were all thinking it

i dated my now husband from the age of 14-18, no sex
it can be done.

I was the first person to reply to her post.I did tell her I wish she weren't having sex at this age,but I wasn't going to judge her.The thing is,She has already been doing it awhile and it should of been stopped from the get go.A parent or somebody should have stepped in and protected her.Now that she has been doing this for awhile she thinks it's ok and that she is not a child anymore.True,we are all older and know that she is.But she is not likely to stop now.Gosh,don't you hate how these guys do this?My now husband did it to me when I was 15 so I know exactly how it goes.They tell you how much they love you an that you will be together forever.The girl falls head over heals and the next thing you no the relationship is sexual.She isn't even getting pleasure out of it.So she needs a parent involved to get to the source as to why she's doing it.Teenagers only see the physical side of sex.They are far to young to realize it is much more.But since she is already doing this,and she is using protection,there isn't much anybody can do.She will get mad and leave the group,and then who will she turn to?I home school my children so I hope that this doesn't happen to my kids.I remember 16 like it was yesterday(I am only 24 now)and I can tell you,at that age you think you are this adult and you don't need anybody,but when you get about 21 or so,you realize how young and childish you really were.I got married at 16 and it felt like we were playing house or something.I wish so badly I could of waited.My husband and I were pratically forced into marriage.We were just kids,really!But you cannot tell a 16 year old she is a child,she won't believe it no matter what.Us telling her she shouldn't be doing this is not going to get her to stop.It'll just make her mad is all.She really needs her parents involved.

Well Blue eyes you are really good natured. We all know that she (sorry honey I forgot your name and feel bad about calling you she) won't go to her parents about it! And deep down inside 16 year old know they are children. But as some may have noticed children are starting to have sex a lot earlier! We can't tell them no we just have to educate them and make sure they are protecting themselves! You have to leave it up to them to make the decision about sex, if you force them not to.. They will want to, thats why they have to be informed.

For many women it takes time to eventually understand your body well enough to achieve orgasm. I was sexually active around your age, very secure w/my sexuality and knowledgable about how to get turned on, but it took me 4 years and 4 boyfriends before i had my first orgasm, then i began getting multiple orgasms nearly every time i had sex!

sometimes women have psychological things they need to work out before they can enjoy sex. sometimes the partner isn't doing all they could do to turn her on (foreplay foreplay foreplay!). sometimes its just not happening! so i say, turn yourself on first. then teach him how to do you right. and then start having some fun, buy toys, buy lube, just go for it!

a great website for sex teachings: www.gurl.com

also, i've recently been using a special lube called NULEXA. it has some ingredient in it that add stimulation and blood flow. they have a website too. its amazing stuff, i love it! and its condom friendly and everything, non-irritating, at least for me. I'd say buy some of that stuff asap and it will help you get there!