need an idea or suggestion

**Mrs Doodles** · 08-12-2009 03:39 AM

Originally Posted by Steph33

Every other guy I've known pushed for anal in a short time. We're together 3 1/2 years. A movie last night a couple did it and I was soaked wanting him, he feels it's degrading and "using" a female.

Most guys love the idea of anal sex i know my DH loves it when we do it, but have to admit it wouldnt be my thing if i was a guy, maybe you just have to accept your guy doesnt want to do Anal after all you cant force him into doing it if he thinks is degrading and that its using a female i doubt anything you say will change his mind

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 08-12-2009 04:29 AM

Sounds like he has a mental break down over this topic... Much like in out but any form of oral is ewee, not... It's sounds more like, he truly feels it's degrading.

So, somehow, you have to make him see that it's ADVENTURE.. much like oral for the first time, finding a g-spot, first positions, it's different, it's an adventure, YOU don't find it degrading and YOU want him to be the first and the only one, well didn't read your whole post but if so, that may work.

If not, don't nooooooooooo... lying is carp.

CW

**KayKay** · 08-12-2009 04:53 AM

Hey
I think you mentioned above that his own sister had an incident right?? i'm not sure if i read it right but thats what i remember. If so, in my opinion that's the reason he is being extra careful with you .. i'm sure if that happened to him at a young age, that kind of stuff might leave an ever lasting scar inside him that he might actually put you in a situation that will remind him slightly of what his sister went through.
theres always a reason for such things, and usually its those things that we go thru when we're young .. that will always be there when we grow up.
just my 2cents

Kay

**Mrs Doodles** · 08-12-2009 05:25 AM

Come on girls how many of you would want to put your (if you had one) in someones poo hole cos i am not sure i would want to do this no matter how clean it was

**OhThereYouAre** · 08-12-2009 06:18 AM

Originally Posted by Steph33

If he doesn't want oral thats OK, I play with him in other ways. And I doubt it's a vaginal only religion thing, he's cum or every part of me with one or the other of us finishing him. Using the anal vibrator is all my idea, I ask, it does zero for him. He is so gentle with it, asking if far enough, or more, or less, are you OK, all the time. I guess scared of hurting me or making me feel violated. He's never pushy in ANYTHING, both his nature and has a sister who was raped. Any fear look or pain look I'm sure would totally freak him out. He's a protector, so even inflicting an accident harm or accident scare would kill him mentally.

So he sounds timid. Tell him to man up. You wanna try something....ask him to go with it for once...you'll lead the way.

Violated? LOL - spraying you with semen, I find, is much more violating than him putting his penis in a place you want it.

Originally Posted by Steph33

I asked him today blunt:

He's afraid he'll get to hard and hurt me or to excited and pound me to hard

He'd break down if he thought I felt "used" or "like a " should he get to excited. Guess he can't see I'd feel good too, his female friends always said it hurt, did nothing, just "for the guy." But not everyone is the same.

And like I asked, he walked away from the discussion after saying he's scared he'd like it if he came a lot and it would harm me if we did it to much. He'd wants to see my face when he releases so it feels like a give instead of take, so fear of some other way getting him off more so naturally wanting that more.

That sounds like a bunch of cop outs to me. Especially since he knows you wanna do it.

Originally Posted by Steph33

Maybe I should say I'd do all movement so I get as much, as fast, deep, as I want so he can't possibly harm me ? Like with him seated and me do reverse cowgirl ?

YES! Then he has no more excuses. You lead the way. Be vocal.

Good luck.