I am 33 & recently engaged. I have the most precious fiance who means more than I ever imagined a man would or could. One problem exists with me though. I don't orgasm & never have. We have better than sex, he does things to me that I never experienced before but I just can reach an orgasm. I want this so badly for myself & for him. I am always afraid he will be tempted to have relations with other women for this feeling from them. I completely understand the whole idea behind what helps women orgasm & I have had extensive discussion on numerious visits with my OBG & tried tons of medications but nothing seems to work. I's sometimes depressed & distant because I cant get past the fact that he may be talking to other women online or elsewhere & that talking could lead sex. I tell myself sometimes that maybe it's me not having 110% trust in him (for previous reasons) & maybe thats why I cant orgasm but what explains my previous sexual experiences? One thing i think of that may get in the way is during sex I tighten up and I cant make myself relax long. Also afraid if i'm too relax he'll think I'm a dead eventhough he often ask me to relax more.

I've had simular problems. When he ask if you had an orgazism that turns me off and I lose concentration. I find that if I really relax and put all my thoughts into my feelings I can climax but other times I can't. Alot of times it has to do with long foreplay. I just love the feelings of being aroused and sometimes the next day I can't wait to have sex because I am on overflow.

If your fiance really loves you, it shouldn't be an issue. Every married couple has their issues and they work through them.

Is your guy climaxing? I mean really, if it is you not having an orgasm shouldn't he be worried that he isn't pleasing you and you will go and cheat. Probably not, because he trusts you. You need to start trusting him. I don't know if you really do. You wouldn't be so worried about him cheating if you really trusted him.

I know in todays society that someone's word doesn't go very far, but you should be choosing to be around those who stand by their word. I would think that your husband to be would be one of those people. I think you need to reevaluate yourself and find what the issue really is. Then maybe you can relax and start to have orgasms.

I totally agree with CLH

Also, Don't try so hard. That can be completely use less to some and words of wisdom to others. Be comfortable with yourself and with him. I really hope you can discover the you inside of you, best of luck.