Hi, I'm a 28 year old female and I have been sexual active for awhile now. My problem is I never had an orgasm. That's make it difficult for me because after being in a relationship for awhile I dislike having sex. I feel like I'm not getting anything out of it. I have no clue of what an orgasm feels like or how to get one. I have been without sex for years at a time and I think it's because of this. Are there any treatment facilites that treat this kind of problem? I am currently in a relationship going on 6 months and I haven't had sex with him yet, because I know when we start eventually I will get tired of having sex and then the relationship will go down hill. Basically I'm tired of pretending that I'm having orgasm and I'm really not. Please help.

first of all you should never base a relationship on sex. And once you are comfortable enough to start having sex your partner should help you with this problem. if you are not comfortable telling your partner about this problem, then maybe you shouldn't be having sex with that person.

Second, have you ever tried a vibrator. There are some fairly inexpensive ones out there and they can really help loosen things up. my advise would be to go and get a little toy and spend some time with yourself and figure out what gets you going...Good luck