Thread: 1+1=3 not!!!!!!!!

Has anyone had the idea that maybe humour is her way of dealiing with uncomfortable situations?
He's a friggin body-builder and you expect her not to comment on his physique? Maybe it's his great physique that has made you become over-protective against other women.
Perhaps she has a quick wit or felt the need to say something least she leaves an awkward tension in the air when she saw him drying off.
Perhaps forgiveness is the answer. Maybe this situation is weighing on her just as much. Do not let anger get the best of you before turning on your DAUGHTER. Taking away a key to what she probably still considers home regardless of her apt. would tear her up inside
Even if your husband was a good father figure he won't ever replace her dad. You are what she has always known. Don't lock her out.

Well now, slowly but surely it's coming out why all this has happening. When we got back from a long weekend, she came over to give us our mail and we talked tidbit type talking until she said there's a guy at college that won't give her the time of day. She's part time student(Junior) and working part time(32 hours/wk) and interested in a guy that won't ask her out. She hasn't ask him out because that's not the way she was raised. Two of her girlfriends told this guy she was interested and he told them he wasn't.......so.......it looks like he might have instilled some insecurities in her. When she brought the mail, we talked about how to get him interested, her two girlfriends told her he's crazy for not asking her out. I told her for some reason he isn't interested, be it old girlfriend hurting, or whatever, and she needs to move on with her life. Guys she went to high school with used to consider her a knockout(their words) so she doesn't understand this guy she's interested in rejecting her. Now where in the big scheme of things this comes with her seeing her stepdad I don't know, but it might be tied together........maybe!!!!!

Just about your previous post I had a comment. Firstly youmentioned the folllowing

Originally Posted by barbiedoll

Two of her girlfriends told this guy she was interested and he told them he wasn't.......so.......it looks like he might have instilled some insecurities in her.

Quite frankly the guy hasn't done anything at all to instill insecurities in your daughter. From the reading he's just flat out not interested in her for his own reasons and apparently made that very well clear. Not every guy we meet HAS to like us. I've had crushes on guys who didn't like me and it's not easy but I knew it was my choice as to how it affected me. At least your daughter's case didn't sound like the guy ever led her on an any way. Apparently he just doesn't like her, that's it.

On the same note, she really just needs to get on with this and her life. I don't see how any of these things can justify what she did to your husband and you in the original post. Maybe in her mind it can be a related thing but if she has issues with her attractiveness or anything then your hubby is not the person to try to work it out with. A counselor would be the correct way to go.

I'm in no way trying to pass judgment on this issue, but only state my observations from reading this thread as it has progressed.