Thread: young guy and dumb about women

hey,

just signed up to say im in the same boat as you... i was nervous and shy around girls as i had little interaction with them during my teenage yrs(boys only school). i am becoming more comfortable with them now

Originally Posted by snbd

hello, well i am a 22 year old guy and i just have no clue. my problem is that i am still a virgin. i know its not a problem, but i feel like i am missing out. i have never been in a relationship or come close to getting sexual. when i was in hs i just wasn't too concerned about girlfriends, was more focused on school and sports, and i am not a player so i can't get a one night stand or such. now i am a senior in college with no experience in either catagory. obviously the ideal would be to find a girl and have a great relationship. but for the time being, i dont have any potential serious girlfriends in mind. i kind of wish i had a girl that just wanted a "friend with benefits" to have some fun with and gain some experience. i like to think i have a lot to offer as a boyfriend or f*** buddy, but struggle with conveying confidence to other people. anyway i am just curious about what women think about my situation or to hear suggestions about how to go forward. i know i need to overcome shyness and lack of confidence but it would be nice to know from women if i have qualities they find attractive. well thanks for listening and your comments.

Originally Posted by randomguy321

hey,

just signed up to say im in the same boat as you... i was nervous and shy around girls as i had little interaction with them during my teenage yrs(boys only school). i am becoming more comfortable with them now

Introduction to the GAME:

There are two parts outer game and inner game. Outer game is how you carry yourself and how you speak to women! Your words, and how to carry a conversation. Your inner game is your self esteem and confidence! You can have sex with as many girls you want if your outer game is tight but you wont keep them if your inner game (self confidence) is not!

For outer game:

I suggest you get a book called The Mystery Method: How to get beautiful women in bed! Its only 13$ or less on amazon.

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Innergame:

For inner game any self help book will do.

Instant Confidence by Paul Mckenna is a great place to start. It comes with a hypnosis cd.

It will change your life!

Welcome to the world of Pick UP

When I was younger I was in your situation. These days I have not trouble meeting women - I'm married so in never goes farther than friends, but I have had offers....

Confidence - as lots of people have mentioned this is important. One way to get this is to do something you are proud of - don't pretend to feel good about your self, give yourself a reason.

On a related note, learn to do something you can share with people - sailing, hiking, horseback riding, etc. It also provides a perfect opening for "want to go sailing next weekend?" It also puts you in a position to demonstrate you competence.

Talk to people (men and women). Start conversations with strangers. Chat with people while standing in line, or on a bus. Don't push it - if the other person doesn't respond then stop. I do this a lot and often people are happy to chat. I've never had anyone do anything more than a dismissive answer.

Don't think about dating, think about making friends. Don't go out of your way to go on a date alone with a woman - invite her along with friends. Wait until she seems interested in you before asking for a date.

Pay attention to your appearance - you don't need fancy designer clothes, but dress neatly and keep your clothes and yourself clean.


As far as the "mechanics" of sex - get a book (the old "joy of sex" was good - its old now but people haven't changed. I'm sure there are other books out now). Or, watch a porn movie - get an amateur movie (many available free on the web) that shows people enjoying sex, not the professional acrobats who are just doing a job.

I wouldn't recommend seeing a prostitute. It will be simply mechanical and not much fun - and has all the risks of disease, etc. A high priced call girl might make for a memorable night - but you would end up feeling used - give her >$1000 for a nice night - and then it is over, leaving you wanting the fantasy that you can't really have.

Finally, there are many forms of beauty. Don't just look for women who match the current standard. I'm NOT saying look for ugly women - just realize that there are a lot of very attractive women who don't happen to fit the style of the day .

I'm sure you get noticed. I see really nice cute guys but they turn me off because they don't know how to communicate well. First of all, stop thinking about the sex aspect first. Desperation can be felt a mile away. I'm already turned off you desperately seek a "f*** buddy" lol....Stop worrying about it. I dunno what else to say but I wish you the best.

One thing that ought to give you some confidence is the fact that it is a common fantasy to have sex with someone completely inexperienced. To be the first to show them the ropes, to completely blow their mind, to remain immortalized as their 'first time' forever - it's a big turn on for some. So, I bet you'll find some girls quite intrigued that you're a virgin.