baileyg

This is kind of embarrassing to talk to the world about, BUT my boyfriends fantasy is to literally go on my face.. like aim it in my mouth...

I get that its a weird porn-fantasy (i guess) but I feel like we have a great sex life without that... and for some reason i can't help but think it is so degradingggg!!!!! even though, i love him, and it is only him and i in the bedroom, i still can't really except it.

I tried it a couple time, but.. i dont know. --do i keep letting him do it, and maybe get used to it after awhile? IS it even NORMAL? do guys really cum in girls faces all the time (a common fantasy?) ?! Let me know what you think...

nightqueen

I don't like doing this either. I think it's very degrading, and I don't let my hubby do it. Some like it, but not me. Don't do it if you don't want to!

rcoreyus

Is he willing to do anything you want in bed. If so, then why not fulfill his fantasy. If he isn't doing what you want, then there is no reason you should be going out of your way for him

WildChild

Listen to Rcoreyus, he is right. If the man won't give, don't give him anything. We women tend to overaccomodate thinking we'll get what we want or need eventually. It doesn't happen.

It's a common fantasy, no big deal.

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OhThereYouAre

What rcoreyus and WC said.

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baileyg

he does do evvvvvvvverything, and would do ANyTTHING i asked. i think it is the past relationships that make me feel like this is degrading. im glad to hear that this is a nORmal fantasy of guys. maybe i just have that guard up still

Steph33

Not for me, is degrading.

Ask him to give your oral during your period, then when he reacts tell him that's how you feel about his want.

Equality, and no guy who cares will try to push anything you don't like or don't want to do. If he does, chalk it up to a pig's mental attitude at women

Ravsoma

I say let him do it.

It's better than him finding someone else to fulfill his fantasy.

If he loves you and you love him, I think you should be willing to do it. I doubt he's trying to be degrading. It's just a fantasy he wants to indulge in with his love.

rcoreyus

I think whether something is degrading depends on attitude, not on the activity. The same physical act can be passionate lovemaking or degrading f****** depending on whether he is saying "I love you" or "take that b****".

Fantasies vary, and are not based on anything reasonable. In most cases I'd say people should do their best to fulfill their partner's fantasies .

Oral sex is a very common desire (for men and women). Finishing on a woman's face is a pretty common variant (though one I don't happen to share).

Just to confuse the issue some people enjoy dominant / submissive play. If he does enjoy that sort of thing and you don't, then you are likely to remain incompatible.

nightqueen

Great advice. The OP should throw her own preferences out the window and cater to his every desire so he won't leave her. I mean, why does she need a voice or opinions of her own at all???

I say, do what you want, don't do what you dislike. It's YOUR body. If your guy loves he should respect you and your limits.