Thread: Sex... I need help PLEASE!

Hey guys this is my first post. I really need your help.


I've liked this guy from College for a year and have known this guy 2 years. Hes recently showed interest and we're hitting it off very well (yay for me!). He tells me so much, though. Which has made me very very worried about when something finally happens. I'm 21, have only had sex once and that was when I was 17. Needless to say, I'm very out of practise!!
I'm not thin and am really embarrassed by my body. I'm very shy and get very uncomfortable about sex and all that kinda stuff. We like each other and he knows I'm insecure but still I know hes a lot more experienced than i am. I'm so afraid I'll be awful and let him down. His favourite thing is to get head, and while I'm inexperienced, I kind-of don't want to, I'm really embarrassed.

I'm so shy, inexperienced and embarrassed. PLEASE help!

If you really don't want to give him head, then don't. But if it is his favorite thing and you let him know that you haven't done this much (or ever) and willing to try it just for him, he will probably be really appreciative.

Don't be shy about asking for what you want, and asking what he wants - if he reacts badly to either then be happy you found out now and not much later.

I agree. If you don't want to do it, don't. If it's only because you feel inexperienced, you have nothing to worry about, you really can't do it wrong unless you bite. As for your body, you need to be confident and secure about your looks regardless. Confidence is soooo attractive.

Okay you wanted a guy's opinion- so here are my thoughts:
If this guy is really into you- and respects you- he is going to be happy to be able to share sex with you.

If it has reached this point- he is turned on by you and your body. Do what you can to try to reach past that insecurity and realize he is probably going to be thrilled by your body.

If you are shy about sex, talk to him about it. Move towards sex at your own speed. Again, if he is into you, it will be fine.

Okay- the giving head thing. Sure he loves it- I love it. But it doesn't have to be first and foremost. My advice is to keep an open mind about it, don't let him pressure you and just try to enjoy sex. As much as I enjoy it, I had one girlfriend who had never done it before and we were together quite awhile before she was willing to give it a try. Just be willing to consider it. Especially if you end up being the happy recipient of his oral attentions.

Good luck- remember- he wants you- the way you are. Relax, get excited, enjoy.

Originally Posted by OG612

It's your life. Be proactive. If you want change in your life, then do something about it. the definition of insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting different results.

OG

Uncanny - I just said that to someone over lunch.

Originally Posted by AnnaLina

We like each other and he knows I'm insecure but still I know hes a lot more experienced than i am. I'm so afraid I'll be awful and let him down. His favourite thing is to get head, and while I'm inexperienced, I kind-of don't want to, I'm really embarrassed.

if you don't want to do it because you're afraid you won't be good at it, or know what to do, then do some research, search online for tips, even watch some porn and most importantly tell him that you're scared for this reason. he won't laugh or judge you, he'll most probably just help you and guide you..

Originally Posted by AnnaLina

I kind-of don't want to

however if you don't want to do it because you genuinely just don't want to, for any other reason, then don't feel pressured to do it just because he likes it.