Thread: suffering from vaginismus?

Seeing a doctor is always good.

As-Salamu Alaykum Toto,

I too was a virgin when my husband and I married (27 years old) and experienced great pain the first few weeks and gradually it eased up. I felt so bad because he really was gentle and stopped every time I whinced or had pain in my face (me legs used to tremble too) and was scared. I wanted him to be pleasured and fulfill one role as his wife. It finally started to ease a little when I used KY Silk lubricant. He always excited me but still not enough to accommodate him. Slowly with lots of lubrication did we finally get it right and now I rarely have to use it at all. I REALLY hurt the first few times and I bled then too (I think my hymen broke after the second attempt).

If it's still going on you may want to see a doctor but definitely try lots of stimulation and then LOTS more lubrication (to both his penis and your vagina) and take things slowly. When he finally got all the way in I remember just clenching my teeth and trying to breath.

I hope it goes well for you both.

wa 3alikum assalam = )

well, we used lubricant and stimulation but it didn't work. i think i'm afraid of the pain i had when i bled..

i think i'll see a doctor soon = )

well, i decide to not visit a doctor. i have a good guide to help me out with this.
So these are the links that help me a lot to understand what i'm going through, they may help someone:
what is vaginismus?
Misconceptions on Vaginismus
Free PDF guide to self-treat vaginismus

i am muslim married woman from about a year and i am 25 , dont worry this happened to me as well,u both have to be patient it takes some time to get used to it ,i had the same feeling i thought i had a problem but it is so normal ,the most important thing is u both have to be calm and dont rush things,and u have to enjoy the 4play so much and do it when u really feel u want to do it ,and by the time u will more comfortable ,i know this problem makes life so tense,dont think about it as we have to do it becoz it is a must,relax and every thing will b fine it took me a month to have done totally
and at that time it wasnt fun but i took a couple of month to know how to enjoy it, u have to tell him things that excits u and make u wet ,and u can use some lubricants 1st and some cream to releive the pain,and when u feel the passion and joy in the orgasm u will ask him to do it over and over again, just remember relax and enjoy.

thanx 4 ur reply = )
after a lot.. a lot of reading i reached to a result that it's not normal.. it's just a common disorder many many girls have when they get married.. bcoz they heard a lot of stories about how painful it's.. so they become nervous that they block the way unconsciously.. then they HAVE to tolerate the all pain for months just bcoz everyone did & do & call it NORMAL.. while it's not.. there should be some pain.. something that u can go with it... pain that doesn't make u scream for months..
tell any a future bride if she get through this to read the links above.. and use the guide..
i know a lot of girls who tolerate it for 3 or 6 mths and some even till giving birth.. while they shouldn't tolerate getting a in them..