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Hello everyone,
Just registered and first time poster here but I've been following this forum and the information here is great coming firsthand from women. I have a question. I've been dating my current girlfriend for 3 months now and we recently started having sex. The sex is great however for as long as I can remember, I ejaculate more than normal or what I think is more than normal judging from previous partner feedback and from videos I've seen. Previous partners have enjoyed it and have thought of it as a turn-on however my girlfriend now dislikes it and she doesn't swallow or allow me to facial. I feel like it's almost a wasted talent. I was just curious to hear from women if you enjoy this type of thing? If not, why? And, if there is anything I can do for her to maybe come around? Thank you.

CHANDLERS WISH

We are all different... Some love it other's don't.

Non-compatability can be an issue sexually and it's always a good idea after a couple of months to talk about sex, likes and dislikes, before you sleep with a partner.

It could be not knowing your age, that if you talked to her and said "others loved it" she may be nervous, feel tarty, feel that she has to live up to something... whereby re-assurance that to you, intimacy is important and she's special and you have alot of feelings for her and you don't view intimacy as tarty.

However, it could also be that she is not going there ever. It's not something she likes.

Communicate with her and ask her why she doesn't like it after re-assuring her I think.

"Wasted talent?"... Why do you think it's a talent? Your lucky if women love taking it all in, especially if you ejaculate alot...

I think you mean, you would be upset if it never happened again in your life because you love it.

Pends on how much you love a woman as to what you will forgoe or not in life.

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Muffin

I agree with wish. Personally I hate it when my guy tells me "but the 'others' loved it" .... I'm not them, I'm me.

For me, (you said you wanted honest opinion) well, It doesn't taste good. The texture reminds me of boogers (don't know why, but that what I think of) The few times I've "nodded" to him coming in my mouth I either ran to spit it out and wash out my mouth or nearly threw up (I felt aweful, i didn't want him to think it was him) its not him, I just don't like that. And theres nothing like feeling like you want to throw up to spoil the mood.

I don't expect to get off every time we do it. I don't mind doing something for him and just for him sometimes. but I'm not going to do something that makes me feel like THAT.

Nats

Totally agree...Not a good idea to compare...

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"Wasted Talent"?

Is that not enough proof right there in those words that we as a society are over-porno-ized? Now don't get me wrong... I am one of those girls that is into when my boyfriend has an orgasm and the result thereafter.

But for a guy to think, and no offense to you -- OP, that ejaculating a whole heap is a talent best saved for facials come- shots.. well.... I can only.. shake, my, head.

Okay that was offtopic Sorry OP -- back to your question at hand, some girls like it... some don't... some don't and then change their mind later. I think it depends on the their partner and the level of intimacy they have. I wouldn't enjoy doing what I do with my boyfriend if I didn't already know I have his love and respect thereby freeing me to be a lil more freaky.

If he was whiny and told me other girls loved it -- I'd probably never do it out of spite :P J/k but yeah... never a good idea to bring up to your lady friend what other chicks prefered to do with your semen. It never goes over that well.

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Miya

I agree with everyone. Every woman has her likes and dislikes and it's not really fair to expect her to be the same as the others. I suppose her differences are why you're with her vs. still with them perhaps?

They're also correct in that it's never a great idea to bring up what your ex's liked/did etc. I doubt you'd want to hear how her ex's did this and that different than you. It's best to respect her wishes and if you're not happy then maybe she's not the right one for you?

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nightqueen

I NEVER let my DH come on my face. I really hate that and find it demeaning. Maybe she does too?? As for swallowing, I'll do it, but would rather spit. I'll do it (BJ) more if I can spit rather than swallow, so DH is good with that. It was nothing to do with him or his come, those are just my personal preferences. Good luck!

Star425

Same here, I hate swallowing, but I do it sometimes just to make him happy.

palmtrees333

Start slow and eventually she will allow you to do facials etc. Just get her more comfortable

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a wasted talent hmmmmm - i would share that gem with your girlfriend!! if she doesnt like it, she doesnt, get over it!