Does your S.O. sexual past bother you???

**AlleyWay** · 10-02-2009, 05:58 PM

This is a question I wanted to get a response on does it really matter how many people your partner has been with before you?

**rcoreyus** · 10-02-2009, 06:51 PM

Not to me.

**Hopeless Dork** · 10-02-2009, 07:12 PM

Nope. I don't find it significant at all me and my boyfriend have been together over a year and neither of us asked how many were before us, don't know- don't care.

**happy ending** · 10-02-2009, 08:47 PM

no not really, i just hope there is no more in the future LOL!!

**LanaBear** · 10-02-2009, 11:00 PM

Nope, not to me.

**WildChild** · 10-02-2009, 11:35 PM

Not a concern or issue, what matters is now.

**kms** · 10-03-2009, 12:30 AM

I don't care how many my SO has been with, but in my particular case it does seem to have an effect on our sex life. He was my first sex partner, so I was completely clueless and inexperienced when we started our relationship. He on the other hand had been with several others (he doesn't even know how many lol), mostly one night stands, so it was a struggle for me knowing that I didn't even come close to living up to the drunken wildness he had experienced previously. I know sometimes he feels frustrated that he has to teach me every single thing (I had never even had an orgasm before him, not even a self-induced one), so I was far, far behind most of my female counterparts. Even now he seems to believe that I'm the only female on the planet that doesn't care for anal (I've tried it a few times for his sake but it is just torture for me)...

So I guess the real answer to your question is, if we both had come into the relationship with partners in our past, then no it would be no problem. But if one person isn't experienced, that person has to deal with the reality that they will always be compared to those that came before, even if the other person doesn't vocalize it.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 10-03-2009, 12:50 AM

As a woman, nope... in-fact I would be grateful if he had, had experience because then I know I am in for a nice, exciting (given back), time at my age...

If I was a Man? Depends on my morals and exactly what her past was.

The only problem I see with sexual pasts, is that from the inset, you have to communicate and ensure you both have the same wants and needs to a good degree and that, you feel loved, not treated as if you should do all that "someone" else has done. Which goes back to communication at the inset.

CW

**happy ending** · 10-03-2009, 02:29 AM

kms that is not necessarily a problem. i was married for 10 years and never had an orgasm, until my present man. i am sure it was very special for your fella to share that with you. i know it was for mine.

Ieshia · 10-03-2009, 01:21 PM

Nope i don't really care, but what i do care about is the person having an STD.
Someone who's only been with one might have it and someone who's been with 40 could be free from it. So the number of partners doesn't bother me at all but i have to know if the person is clean of any sexually transmitted disease.

10-02-2009, 05:58 PM	#1
AlleyWay VIP Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 50	Does your S.O. sexual past bother you??? This is a question I wanted to get a response on does it really matter how many people your partner has been with before you?

10-02-2009, 07:12 PM	#3
Hopeless Dork Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: United States Posts: 2,191	Nope. I don't find it significant at all me and my boyfriend have been together over a year and neither of us asked how many were before us, don't know- don't care. __________________ ------------- Defintion of Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein

10-02-2009, 11:00 PM	#5
LanaBear WH Moderator Breakout Champion! Moon Lander Champion! Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: A raft in the middle of the pacific. ;-) Posts: 3,807	Nope, not to me. __________________ Sometimes life isn't the party we hoped for, but since we're here, we might as well DANCE! Life isn't about finding* yourself. Life is about creating yourself.* Register! \| Rules/FAQ \| Contact Mod

10-02-2009, 11:35 PM	#6
WildChild WH Moderator Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 8,699 Blog Entries: 6	Not a concern or issue, what matters is now. __________________ We can only learn to love by loving. Iris Mudoch, British writer

10-03-2009, 12:50 AM	#8
CHANDLERS WISH WH Head Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 12,685 Blog Entries: 8	As a woman, nope... in-fact I would be grateful if he had, had experience because then I know I am in for a nice, exciting (given back), time at my age... If I was a Man? Depends on my morals and exactly what her past was. The only problem I see with sexual pasts, is that from the inset, you have to communicate and ensure you both have the same wants and needs to a good degree and that, you feel loved, not treated as if you should do all that "someone" else has done. Which goes back to communication at the inset. CW __________________ Women are Angels And when someone breaks our wings.... We simply continue to fly.........on a broomstick... We are flexible like that .... White Witch. Register! \| Rules/FAQ \| Contact Mod

10-02-2009, 06:51 PM	#2
rcoreyus March 2008 "Poster of the Month" Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 1,742	Not to me.

10-02-2009, 08:47 PM	#4
happy ending Veteran Member (800+ posts & member 1 year+) Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: western australia Posts: 919	no not really, i just hope there is no more in the future LOL!!

10-03-2009, 12:30 AM	#7
kms Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Indiana Posts: 267	I don't care how many my SO has been with, but in my particular case it does seem to have an effect on our sex life. He was my first sex partner, so I was completely clueless and inexperienced when we started our relationship. He on the other hand had been with several others (he doesn't even know how many lol), mostly one night stands, so it was a struggle for me knowing that I didn't even come close to living up to the drunken wildness he had experienced previously. I know sometimes he feels frustrated that he has to teach me every single thing (I had never even had an orgasm before him, not even a self-induced one), so I was far, far behind most of my female counterparts. Even now he seems to believe that I'm the only female on the planet that doesn't care for anal (I've tried it a few times for his sake but it is just torture for me)... So I guess the real answer to your question is, if we both had come into the relationship with partners in our past, then no it would be no problem. But if one person isn't experienced, that person has to deal with the reality that they will always be compared to those that came before, even if the other person doesn't vocalize it.

10-03-2009, 02:29 AM	#9
happy ending Veteran Member (800+ posts & member 1 year+) Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: western australia Posts: 919	kms that is not necessarily a problem. i was married for 10 years and never had an orgasm, until my present man. i am sure it was very special for your fella to share that with you. i know it was for mine.

10-03-2009, 01:21 PM	#10
Ieshia Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 28	Nope i don't really care, but what i do care about is the person having an STD. Someone who's only been with one might have it and someone who's been with 40 could be free from it. So the number of partners doesn't bother me at all but i have to know if the person is clean of any sexually transmitted disease.

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