Thread: Girlfriend of 6 years has become asexual

My girlfriend is every bit as upset by this as I am. She can't experience one of the best things life has to offer anymore. Some background - we're currently in our low-mid 20's and have been dating for 6 years.

We started out as friends, and even today we can call eachother best friends - but not much more.

When we started having sex, we did it a LOT. We even called her a nympho as a quasi-joke, but it was pretty much completely accurate. We had sex whenever possible- in the bathroom, in the car, etc. Sometimes 3 times a day, and it was great every time. That's not me being cocky, that's just how it was.

Slowly but surely, we started having sex less and less (due to her... i'm always ready and willing). From twice a day, to once a day, to every other day, to twice a week, to once a week, to twice a month, to once a month, to barely ever. The sex began to become painful for her slowly over time. Now, I can't even put it in even when she's fully aroused and i have a ton of lube on, me entering her causes extreme physical pain (but my finger is just fine and doesnt hurt her). The gyno sees no physical problems. As the sex started to slow down, she still did do other stuff for me which she's good at, so I didnt mind at all. However, then she began to say she had jaw pain, and began to only use her hand after that. She's good at that too, so to be honest, I was fine with it. But then, she began complaining of tired arms and painful wrists, and doesn't like doing that either. I tend last a long time, so I can sort of understand where she's coming from... it's a 2 edged sword. Despite her discomfort, she continued doing that for me.

Until now. As I type this today, she has explicitly stated that she refuses to do anything sexual going forward until she gets libido back. She actually gets pleasure out of NOT seeing me, knowing she will go a night without having to do anything sexual. She gets nothing out of it, and she doesnt like it. She doesnt masturbate, she doesnt get aroused, and she doesnt even like kissing anymore. She despises any physicality in a relationship. Everything seems fine during the day - we get along very well (we do argue about a select few topics, but overall, we're good). We can go out to a nice dinner and have a good time with eachother, but once we head back to the bedroom, it ends there.

I am absolutely certain she is not cheating. I trust her 100% and she's not that kind of girl.

So the way I see it is there are 2 options:
1) Her birth control has slowly caused her to lose any libido.
2) She has grown tired of me over 6 years and is ready to move on. She states that even if brad pitt made advances on her sexually, she would'nt care. She just doesnt like it anymore.

In my honest, paranoid, but logical opinion, it's number 2.

We've considered options, like an open relationship, but since i'm the only one that actually wants to have sex, that would basically just be a liscense for me to run around and cheat. As backed up as I am, I coudlnt do that to her.

A normal couple would have probably just broken up by now. We want to work this out, but we don't know what to do.